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Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember26 Nov 2019, 1:55 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

For our final online event of the year @Former-Member as well as the LE and Carer communities, will be discussing one of the most common challenges throughout the holiday period!

Expectations

We will be strategising some different approaches to this time of year including realistic expectation setting, maintaining perspective and executing on self-care.
Look forwarding to seeing you all there

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:23 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

For sure @cutiepiekitty that switch would be incredible 🙂

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

What are some ways that we can minimise the pressure we put on ourselves during the holiday period?

Ignoring other people's expectations ..

. adding some humour helps.

reminding ourselves that we cannot please everyone around us

to be happy and content with our plans

@Adge, @Former-Member , @Former-Member , @BlueBay , @cutiepiekitty , @frog

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Very true, it's impossible to please everyone. I think this is a bit of a key mantra for the coming holidays actually @Adge Thank you so much.

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Shaz51I agree with Mr Shaz, medication!

I will be relying on it to get through the holiday period.

I will be spending it with my family and husbands family. I don't want to but it is what is needed to be done. I especially find my family a big trigger.

I will put on my mask and pretend that nothing is wrong. It really is exhausting.

I know people will think "at least I have someone to spend it with" but I would rather go into hiding.

I do it for my kids sake. They should enjoy this time.

@Former-Member

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Shaz51Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:27 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Snowie

that is totally what mr shaz does

soo sending you understanding hugs as mr shaz does not want to go at all

he would just love to stay home @Former-Member

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:30 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

"adding some humour helps..."
@Shaz51 Agreed!!!

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:32 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Alright crew - thank you so much for these responses, really incredible work.

Second last question

It can be easy during this busy period, to start to feel some underlying stress or anxiety. What are some techniques we can use when we notice ourselves feeling stressed around the holidays?

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:32 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Scheduling in some time out from family ... getting in a siesta of needed ... being intentional about being kind to our inlaws as an act of love to our partners (or as I call them ... the outlaws).

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BlueBaySenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 8:35 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Take time out @Former-Member

eg. Snooze

outside in the garden

beach for a swim

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 8:35 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Yes absolutely! How does it look scheduling time away from the fam? What are some strategies there? I am a fan of the frequent walk around the block 🙂 @Former-Member

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