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Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Unknown userMember26 Nov 2019, 1:55 pm AEDT

Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

For our final online event of the year @Former-Member as well as the LE and Carer communities, will be discussing one of the most common challenges throughout the holiday period!

Expectations

We will be strategising some different approaches to this time of year including realistic expectation setting, maintaining perspective and executing on self-care.
Look forwarding to seeing you all there

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In response to: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Sophie1Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:20 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

First thought is I want them to be relaxing ... reality they mostly end up being taken up with catching up with family in a hectic pace

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 7:21 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Yes agreed @Sophie1 So an ideal is sort of, just chatting to one another around the living room? Without having to jump house to house?

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cutiepiekittySenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:23 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

I find it hard that so many organisations, groups etc all close down for as much as 6 weeks at this time. It is too long when you are struggling and unable to get the support you usually can get from them.

So many have no families or their family are the cause of many of their problems so they have no supportive family for the Christmas period. That is where the peer support is needed most by a lot of us because it is so lonely and hard with the media stressing time with families. This can be an awful trigger. There needs to be more emphasis on things other than the family at this time, and more places opened for the support of people struggling. In country areas we are left totally unsupported. At least most cities have a lunch or something for people that are alone

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Sophie1Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

With family members beginning to pass away and impacting me more I now think that connecting with individuals at the family celebrations in a more meaningful way is perhaps a valuable element to pull from the debris of effort to prepare and turn up to these events

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cutiepiekittySenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

I would love to have family to share with

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RazzleSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:24 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Former-Member and everyone else passing through. I’m a long way from home tonight with my mum in hospital recovering from a broken hip. Having a little set back on an otherwise perfect recovery - dementia and confusion pretty bad tonight so I might have to sit this one out. I’ll jump on again tomorrow and take a look at the discussion

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Judi9877Senior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:25 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Hi @Former-Member @Sophie1 @Adge @cutiepiekitty @Snowie @@@@@and everyone joining here.

I totally agree that the holiday season should be about relaxing and taking it easy like @Sophie1 said. There’s so much pressure to be with family, friends and everyone else yet some people like myself just want to chill and take it easy.

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SnowieSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:26 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

@Former-Member

I think the holidays should be relaxing too but I know they won't be.

They should be filled with family and/or friends that you feel comfortable around.

They should be a time when you can stay away from crowded places!

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AdgeSenior Contributor10 Dec 2019, 7:27 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

People celebrating Christmas together.

Family or social gatherings that are meaningful, & bring people together @Former-Member

The reality is very different.

I will have no-one to spend time with - so I either spend Christmas day (& the whole period) alone - or I go to a Community Christmas lunch (for people) who have no celebration or gathering, or people to spend it with.

Adge

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Unknown userMember10 Dec 2019, 7:28 pm AEDT

Re: Topic Tuesday // Managing expectations during The Holidays // Tues 10th Dec, 7pm AEDT

Hey @cutiepiekitty agreed, many of us do not have our own families to share this period with. You are right that we need to redefine the holiday season, and perhaps there can be more events/peer groups run by the sector at this time. It could be interesting to consider what that would look like, I think it's a really good idea Thank you for sharing. I hope the SANE Forums provides a safe space for you to continue to come and share your holiday season with whilst those usual supports are down.

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