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IDontEvenKnowNew Contributor
i cant deal with everything. its like im sad but also numb at the same time. i dont get it. i have struggled with self harm but can no longer hurt myself cause of the guilt other people have put on me for doing it. life sucks. i want to disappear and i dont know my purpose. i cant remeber when i was last actually happy.
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outlanderSenior Contributor
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Hi @IDontEvenKnow
Its wonderful that you have reached out and shared here, I am so sorry things feel so tough. As @outlander mentioned - do you connect with other supports like a therapist or gp to share these thoughts with as well?
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frogSenior Contributor
Hello @IDontEvenKnow
Sounds very hard atm. Just wanted to say I read your post.
I dk how old you are, but not knowing your purpose is something I struggle with at 51.
For me finding meaning is sometimes a day by day proposition. I look for little wins - anything that is good, and sometimes even less bad if you know what I mean. Small things can still be significant. One of the most significant things that gives me a sense of purpose is connecting with others in any shape or form. The forum has helped me to do that - so many supportive people here who can relate. Eventually I gained enough confidence to connect with people irl and it has been life changing. Wishing you well.
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@IDontEvenKnow welcome to saneforums. So cool you're here, many of us can relate to where you're at, that feeling disconnected and lost... I'm glad our looking for answers, don't give up. What really jumped out of me while reading your words is to tell you... YOU DONT HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THIS TO GET THROUGH IT... Hand to task, one day at a time and some gentle guidance from knowing gentle souls is all you need. Get as much support as you can and you'll get there 💜
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Jimbuck85New Contributor
Hi there I'm in a similar situation at the moment I struggling with self harm which is really really dangerous to myself please help me
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Hi @IDontEvenKnow , welcome. I'm sorry you feel this way and you've struggled with self harm. You're not alone.
How are you at the moment?
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