Eating disorder and more - need a shoulder ......

Heeeeeeyyyy @Corny ❣️🌽

So good to hear from you, even if it is only a fly-by.
You're right, the divorce has gotten worse, and I probably won't get over it entirely, but I intend on internalising vital lessons to be learned from it, and find a life beyond. I was over "him" in the discard moment when he dropped his mask, because he clearly wasn't who I had "known" him to be ...... that was the devastating part, but who he actually is I don't want a bar of. That doesn't mean I can't treasure the life we once had when I thought he was someone / something else ..... someone / something I could believe in and admire ......

Hope you're doing okay, and I think of you often 💞

I am so proud of your fortitude FnH and doing the dignified thing and ending the marriage immediately to salvage any modicum of self-respect that may be left. It is sad that it has ended, but it would be even sadder if he was humiliating you for another 20 years having affairs behind your back. This is the lesser of the 2 pains you had to choose from. Well, in the long run. I am sure it is excruciating I doubt she was the first, she is probably the last one in a whole line. Money doesn’t bring out another side in people it brings out the real side. As for his NPD, intrinsic personality still plays a role in how MI manifests, you can see that by comparing everyone you know with the same condition, it was interesting to see in hospital last year when I was in there for a 3rd of the year. But he is not your problem anymore. Take care FnH, just wanted to acknowledge your reply, Corn-Dog

👍❤️ @Corny

👋💕 @outlander

Hey @outlander

I havent caught up with anyones threads but hope you are well.

Have you applied for the NDIS? I want you to apply button, I haven't been in hospital once this year, over 4 months last year, it makes a huge difference to your health.

I saw a seal the other day while out with my support worker, he was the cutest little guy. I have never seen Sydney Harbour looking so clean in my life. The Wealthy & Healthy have gone to the regions, I hope they don't colonise your peaceful town.

Take care little one xx

@Corny @Faith-and-Hope 💞🤗

Emelia 🌸

👋💕 @Emelia8 ....

Just wanted to say hi @Faith-and-Hope and let you know I'm thinking of you. Tough(er) times for you at present I am sorry to see. Please take care x hugs always ✔️💪💞

@Faith-and-Hope

Incoming 🤗 @Faith-and-Hope

Just dropping in briefly and catching up. I'd so hoped it would all be over for Xmas with the paperwork stuff.
I'm not sure what you've got planned but I hope it's with family in a day of harmony.

thinking of you 💜😘🤗💐🙏

💖💞 @Anastasia ..... didn't get a tag for your post above, so I missed it till now. Thanks Hon, much appreciated.

Hiya @Teej 👋💜💕. Always good to see you.

s2bx is all over the shop with paperwork and organisation in general. Add that to not caring how much chaos is caused, and issues all over his new life situation ...... there was a reason I was his "primary supply" for over 30 years. He needs that person to hold his life together, and there will be aspects of "my replacement" that don't work for him so efficiently.

Remembering too that he was a workaholic who now doesn't have an office to run away to, and his "secondary supply" pool (extended family) is in another state, I picture an octopus on roller skates trying to stay upright.

He has also encountered health woes, which I expect will be ongoing from here. Part of the new "primary supply's" role will be nursing his health along with his ego.

Funancual accountability is still not in place, predictably, but we have begun the process of selling off things that won't be a part of our separate new lives, or he chooses to buy back from family members he has sold to .... whatever ...... so something is ticking over. I made the decision from the beginning of the year, when it became clear that he was going to spray mayhem and discord all over everything that I wouldn't hold my breath ..... it will take as long as it takes.

One of the other forumites who drops in here has recounted the experience of a friend which reflects what I have going on. She said the longer it dragged out the more his nature began to show itself, and the inconsistencies and manipulations caused that one to "fall on his sword". I am starting to see the same thing here.

In the west at the mo, and he is not, although he is paying a flying visit in the next couple of weeks. His new life circumstances are providing a conflict of interest. So yes, Christmas with the kids, except one that stayed east for their mental health. They will come over to visits sibs later, but not until I have returned east. That one is still pretty wobbly.