Getting there with photos @Teej 😏, but still fairly new. I am so pleased for them, but it's bittersweet - not only for the distance, but also the emotional roller coaster and financial mess across the whole family.
There is an NPD cycle in terms of relationships, and apparently it speeds up with successive partners ...... he is following the NPD patterns with everything he is doing, and I mean everything, so closely that it's like he is ticking off a to-do list. So I reckon he's begun the devaluation stage in his new nest, but still in the early stages when it's all subtle gaslighting and dissonance, providing him the next level of what is referred to as "supply".
As much as I am glad to have my studies, I am also glad he is involved in creating a new mess in another corner of his life, because it is helping to keep him in a conflict of interest, and will also show him up for what he is as the cycle repeats itself.
Rather than the grass not being greener on the other side, it's more that he burns off the new grass, then goes off looking for some more somewhere else, only to burn it off again.
And apparently they never do the inner work because they have no insight into themselves ..... and don't feel any need to change. Life is purely transactional for them, but they will masquerade as anything they have to to achieve their objectives. That is why it is so shocking and dramatic when they suddenly discard their former partner and whole way of life, and begin again as someone else, with someone else. A whole new identity, dress code and all.
Thank you so much for being in my corner and sharing your experiences with me .... and you too @Zoe7. Feeling the love .....
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