Huge hugs to you all on this thread and what you've endured.
Just came on to catch up @Faith-and-Hope . Feel so frustrated for you. Hold on to all your past experiences and find as much documentation as you can. I'm thinking of all the control mechanisms he had for such a long time. I agree that it will be all about the money. He will try anything to get his way but I suspect he won't see other ways.
Im wondering if you are getting much support from your oldest daughter through this. I know the older ones will not want to pick sides but I hope they are still supporting you. For me that was the most important part. It still is. My money is still tied up over something pitiful but so is his. Im not giving in and I gave in too much from what happened at the 11th hour. For me personally I am frustrated with how much a lawyer cost but it was worth it to take the heat out of the stupid stuff. He will try so many power play things through his lawyer. I hope yours will see straight through them and stay a step ahead.
It took me such a long time to be ok in my company but I wouldn't change it for anything now. I doubt I will ever have another relationship. Being burned twice is enough. I know mine wasn't NPD as such but the more I read of this thread there were/are some characteristics that stand out so much now. Not being able to have empathy or put yourself in anyone's shoes but your own will be a red flag for me from now on. How can you genuinely care for someone if you can't put yourself in their shoes because you only have a lens for how everything affects you. Sorry rant coming out.
so my darling @Faith-and-Hope , please always know that all the people who see you, and can put themselves in your shoes, care so very much and can't wait for this all to end so that our resident artist can bloom and blossom into a new woman.
trying hard to be here but not doing such a great job. To tell the truth, still probably a little self absorbed in my own stuff. Weekly appointments with psychiatrist and therapist have been great but I tend to be much more egocentric and self absorbed. 😳😬🤦♀️. They'll get spaced out again soon.
