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Where do I go to get help for my partner?

dmu72611Casual Contributor

Where do I go to get help for my partner?

My partner and I have been together for a little over 18 months, Early in our relationship he told me that he had previously been admitted to a mental health ward and diagnosed with a personality disorder, but at the time I didn't really take it seriously as he seemed so normal.

Well ... things aren't normal now. Some days he withdraws competely and stays in bed with the blankets over his head, sometimes he is happy and full of plans for our future. Often he is unreasonably angry with me and paranoid about my movements - I took too long at the shops today and it turned into a tirade about me not caring and keeping secrets.

He has been through some really tough health issues since we have been together, resulting in two partial foot amputations. He was seen by a phsyciatrist when he was in hospital and diagnosed with depression as he was having suicidal thoughts, however I think he has stopped taking his meds now as he doesn't think he needs them.

I have tried talking to him very gently about his mental health issues ... he has agreed that he needs help but seems unmotivated to actually take steps to make an appointment.

He's hurting, I'm hurting .... what can I do?

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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Gee @Shaz51 that was great that there was Red Cross accommodation nearby. It's so hard when country folk have to access hospital services in the cities, and have accomodation, and the costs, to try to factor in too.

It's certainly not easy. You are doing such a fantastic job of keeping things as steady as you can. What a trooper you are.

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Thank you @Faith-and-Hope

I think you are doing an awesome job too, with a young family too , my 4 step children are all adults now which makes a difference xx

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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@Shaz51

This is my youngest now turning 18, so my five are now all adults - I'm a bit in shock today I think .....

But the younger ones are what I call "baby adults". The years between 18 and 21 are really big strides, aren't they ? It makes all the difference in terms of their self-confidence and trying to work out who they are for themselves.

Land they're still so hormonal. Baby adults or baby dragons ..... sometimes I wonder ❣

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Yes @Faith-and-Hope

My 4 step children came into my life when they were aged 20, 19,16 and 14 , xx

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Faith-and-HopeSenior Contributor

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So you know all about baby dragons @Shaz51 😆

They're gorgeous in their own way, but they burn you sometimes too.

That's why I call myself a Phoenix. Just keep rising from those ashes ❣

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Shaz51Senior Contributor

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Love your picture @Faith-and-Hope xx

yes we have had some ups and downs , but I love them and they love me in their own way

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NikNikSenior Contributor

Re: Where do I go to get help for my partner?

Hi @dmu72611

Just checking in to see how you're travelling?

Nik
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