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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@eth, we speak the same language!

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Morning @Sophia1 and @Bunniekins if you’re about .... 👋💕

Just a referral for routine testing cos I had a brush with cancer years ago.

@Mazarita @outlander @eth @utopia @Exoplanet

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@Faith-and-Hope, that must have been scary. Glad to hear it was just a 'brush'. I read something about it on another thread. Was it skin cancer? Best wishes for your checkup today.

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Hope you get the all clear @Faith-and-Hope

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@eth, about what we were talking about a little while ago, regarding catastrophic or anxious thoughts. I still get very anxious about certain things. Just that the more outlandish catastrophes that appear in my mind, whilst troubling, I somehow know how to let drop pretty quickly. For example, when the jets or light aircraft fly overhead (many many times a day), I'm forever imagining them falling out of the sky and crashing into this place, basically on my head, lol. These visions do bring anxiety but I manage to keep it under some control, mostly because those scenarios are less than likely. The more possible catastrophes (such as the fear homelessness in my older years), are not so easy to budge.

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Yes @Mazarita @eth @outlander @Sophia1 @utopia ...... it was melanoma ..... caught early, removed swiftly, and no trouble since, but there is a random cluster of cancers and autoimmune disease in my family, which may or may not have a genetic basis, so this is part of remaining vigilant in regard to my health.

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Great that you are following through with checking on it in an ongoing way, @Faith-and-Hope.

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@Mazarita for me it's more 'in the now' fears - being mugged, assaulted, robbed, getting lost and dissociating, walking alone, dangerous drivers - that sort of thing. Even going to the letter box.

I'm so grateful for the support of bro and sil and support worker with these fears most times I leave the house.

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Yeah, in the now fears here too, @eth, though less so than they used to be thank goodness. I spend days without going to the mailbox too, often to do with anxiety about seeing the onsite manager or other neighbours. I feel like I have to dress neatly to go the letterbox, lol. Some days that is too much of an obstacle to get over. I've become a lot looser and more confident in going out by bus and travelling independently over the past few years though, for which I am grateful.

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@eth and everyone, just realised I'm getting a bit sore sitting in this chair for so long. Need to take a break from the forum. Great chatting this morning, thanks to all who were here.

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