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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@outlander Well I think it is a brighter note because you are a caring person and a very kind person so it is a brighter note even if you don't feel that way that is how the pea sees you :).

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Your a sweetie @Bunniekins 🌻 love your new avatar too
Any plans for today?


Hi @eth do you have any plans for today

Hello @PeppiPatty hows things at your end?

I think i seen @Mazarita just pop up too... how are you?

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I am about to start cooking some veggie stew in the slow cooker for tomorrow. Other than that it will be spending time with the family and talking with you lovely formites :D. On that note BBL @outlander

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Ooh yum @Bunniekins enjoy and enjoy your day :face_with_rolling_eyes:

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Hey @outlander still feeling really slow this morning. Not really a problem as I've no plans today. I think I'm still recovering from all the stimulus of my time away. Will probably plant out some basil, rhubarb and spinach seedlings my bro just brought home. And nap or read after that.

Hope today is relaxing for you. Good to hear your hand is recovering from your serious injury.

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A nice easy going day sounds good @eth its an easy going day for the moment. Already went to work this morning but back home by 9 ( was out at 6) and now just with siblings

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This thread has been great reading Ladies @Bunniekins @Mazarita @outlander

I heard about the Atheist London Assembies .. when I first got my laptop .. I was going through all the science/religion stuff online. It talks to the fact that people are social beings and a regular get together is hard wired into our psyches ... which ever way you want to explain it.

The point about it not needing to be super close is important .. as that allows stability ... there is not so much super best friend stuff .. with its downers ... its getting allong village stuff.

@Mazarita We are still going through the same topic re nights. lol .. My son is working really hard to manage his sleep. He is very like you and loved the solitude and calm of nights. I dont blame him. This week he has been getting up at 4 am. I tell him its better to get some satisfaction than be totally tied up in knots about keeping strict time.

Not sure why ,,, but maybe its my reaction to living with orphanage timetables ... and morning sirens .. I know life when it is too strictly regulated as well .. it is just the way it is ....

Hope you ALL have a GOOD day.

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Hiya @Appleblossom, @outlander, @eth, @Bunniekins

@eth this morning has been very gentle for me too and it’s so nice 👍.

wohoo @Mazarita, @Faith-and-Hope. I negotiated with myself really well last night to my amazement, and not only slept in a bed with clean sheets, but also vacuumed my room a put piles of things away. I hope my next lot of negotiations goes as smoothly 😜

wishing everyone moments of peace and tranquillity today too 💜🤗

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Good morning @Appleblossom i hope todays a good day 💖

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Morning @Teej
Woohoo go you wirh negotiating with yourself! 💜
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