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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Nightie night, @Teej. Rest well.

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Lol, just saw your negotiation image from before too, @Faith-and-Hope. Seriously though, it helps me 'get' that concept better.

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Good night @Teej sleep well 💜

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I usually wear my clothes inside out..... often at my MILs or with Mr Buddha or at

mum's and they say.....your clothes are inside out.....I like wearing loose baggy clothes.....I bought the cutest dark knitted cardigan short in target for very llittle, loose jeans from oppy,,,,,target peasant shirt.......very loose......

cooooolllll........

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Goodnight @Teej, if I haven’t missed you ..... 🤗💜💐💕

The power of image @Mazarita ..... 😄👍

Sounds comfy to me @PeppiPatty 🌷

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When Mr Buddha turned 17, he only wore suits. Still the same.

Suits.. We discuss his choice of waistcoats all weekend.

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Hi @PeppiPatty, awesome with wearing what expresses you. I wear almost all op shop clothes too, though these days I am a bit more conservative in dress style, not that keen on being too obtrusive since I'm in some of my shyer years. But I used to dress wildly as a drama student. Witches britches with short nylon dresses from the oppy. One I had was red with horizontal stripes. Then I'd have tights and big thick socks with shoes from the oppy that looked a bit like old fashioned womens shoes from the 1940s. Either that or the same kind of outfit and gumboots. Had so much fun with what I wore during that time.

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lol.......so we were all um.......different......for the past few years I just wore my overalls an t-shirt or singlet and whatever.......

But they are now somewhere...I'm over the overalls and into as loose as you can get.

Gumboots ?lol thick socks? So.....a little like Dorothy with the red striped dress and 40s shoes? I want to go home @Mazarita ??

Some years ago, I found some cute not shoes, not boots doctor martens on Amazon. com. They are three-hole shoes.....for 50 and no postage and packaging so I live in em...

I go into Target to get my knickers and usually on the cheap rack I know...

I've written an article on Sociology on Functionalism..... my head is very big that I understood it all and it helped that Mr Buddha gave me a talk about what it all meant...... pretend I didn't tell you that Mr Buddha explained it all and I just read it and understood it all straight away ok?

I betta go to sleep and read up on all comments ...

Luv ya all @Faith-and-Hope @outlander @Teej @Appleblossom

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Goodnight @PeppiPatty 😴 ❣

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Love you too @PeppiPatty ..... ❣️

G’night darlin’ .....

And goodnight @outlander 🌷

I will head off too and try to be in bed by pumpkin hour .....

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