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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Mazarita@Ant7 when I was married and the children were really young we retned a place way down south and in the winter you could see your breath inside the house it was so cold!! 😮

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Wow, seeing your breath inside. I think it's happened to me on odd occasions too, @Bunniekins. Not where I am now though. It's almost the perfect climate for me.

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@Mazarita@Ant7 yes well the rent was cheap and it was close to the school in walking distance but omg in the winter .... and then there was a time. Do you want me to tell you something really gross??

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If it will get through moderation, @Bunniekins

Good morning @CheerBear, here if you feel like chatting.

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@Mazarita@Ant7 Okay we had this awful old carpet and and old fireplace which couldnt be used which we blocked off to stop the cold air coming through .... anways .... one time we were watcing tv and I noticed all these strange grubs coming out of the carpet .... there would have been in total 30 or more. I called my ex to come and he had a look and he said they were maggots!!!!!!!!!

We pushed away the blocked off area of the fireplace and sure enough there was a dead bird!!!!!!!It was moving with the maggots inside it :O. I swear to god it was the most horrific thing I have seen in a long, long time.

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Morning @Mazarita ☺ How was your night?

Hi @Bunniekins and maybe @Ant7 too (haven't read back sorry)

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@CheerBear Hi CheerBear 😄 xxx

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@Mazarita@CheerBear@Ant7 now you have to admit that is pretty awful ... anyone else that can outdo that story?

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OMG, @Bunniekins. How awful. Glad it's in the past! It's amazing you didn't smell the dead bird.

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Good night here, @CheerBear. No sleep yet but productive video stuff. I'm not sure I'm ever going to be able to give up these all nighters, at least sometimes.

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