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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Beautiful @Faith-and-Hope thankyou. Symbolizes transformation. Have a great day

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Good morning, @Faith-and-Hope, @eth, @Former-Member, @Appleblossom and everyone. Hope there are some good moments for us all today.

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Have a good one @Mazarita My PhaMs worker just said they'd come at 11.30 for a couple of hours - coffee at the beach, working out goals and schedules. Short notice but I got a bit more sleep so I'm good with it. Trust you slept well too. Catch you tonight no doubt

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@eth, sounds great with your Phams worker. I used to go to the beach quite a lot with mine too. We'd walk and talk and verbally plan next steps etc., all the while getting exercise. It got me out walking more than I would have at the time too. Sometimes we'd just sit there and gaze out to sea while doing the same. Yes, I got more sleep. I've had about 7 hours all up now since going to bed for the first time last night. Coughing is driving me mad again this morning so have taken yet more of the cough suppressing medication with the ingredient you're allergic to. I don't usually take this much of it (only usually for migraines). But have to do something about the incessant coughing. I will go to the GP today, I've now decided. I'll talk to her about this as well as what I was originally going for, a problem I am having with my Crohns. Anyway, have a great day and catch you later.

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You too @eth ..... 💕

Coffee at the beach sounds awesome.

Good morning @Mazarita .... 🤗💕

Sorry to hear you are still coughing ..... hope the dr can offer more substantial relief.

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Thanks, @Faith-and-Hope, me too! I read recently that you may have to face a relocation, which I totally understand might be turning your world upside down, literally. I hope you are still going out for your morning coffees and walks and finding time for some art, if possible. I also saw you have been having massage lately, great move. I too am doing that once every four weeks, mainly for physical issues. It seems to be picking up my health (lurgies notwithstanding). Massage is a wonderful gift to the world in my view! Hope your day goes well.

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Yes to all of the above @Mazarita ......

Thankfully in the short term the relocation will be in the form of packing a suitcase cos we have somewhere fully-furnished to stay ..... and we will be coming back here for all the holidays and long weekends, which is a reversal of how we have been living in recent years with WH actually wanting to relocate to the east coast ...... and I am not going to think beyond that at the moment. It can probably stay as some version of this for at least two years, and there is so much of our muddle set to be sorted out in that time, I really don't know what to think or feel ..... so I am just parking it all up for now ...... and take the baby steps as they come.

Yes ..... blessings upon blessings to all the masseusses of this world ...... ❣️

What I once thought of as a luxury is helping to hold me together now ....

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@Faith-and-Hope @Mazarita I practiced as a massage therapist freelance for over 30 years !! So I'll join in on receiving that blessing

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🤗💕 please do @eth ..... !!

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Blessings, @eth ox

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