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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@CheerBear, have you had much sleep at all before waking too early?

I have no plans for today. Housework is looming at the moment, especially cleaning my bathroom and doing the kitchen. Other than that, zilch plans.

Still pretty tired though, may get some more sleep before I wake up for good today.

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Only a couple of hours last night @Mazarita. I woke tossing and turning as usual then made the mistake of checking emails that came through during the night which included an electricity bill surprise and c-link stuff. That'll end my chance of sleep every time!

Good luck with the looming housework! I have a big pile of washing that is looming that I should probably tackle today.

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I can understand how getting mail from c-link and a bill might wipe out sleep possibilities, @CheerBear. Hope both are okay news. Some more washing on my part would be a welcome thing too. On the other hand, I have a feeling I'm going to be fighting to stay awake today, despite the good chunk of sleep. Will see how I go resisting it!

Have you been getting to your crochet over the past couple of days? That picture you posted was really lovely.

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It would be hard to fight to stay awake @Mazarita. I can imagine it being similar to fighting to go to sleep, just in a different way. Where is this balance thing? 😉

Thank you 🙂 It's a lovely pattern. I haven't made any kind of square or tile blanket before because I can't stand sewing in all of the yarn ends that need to be done with them. A couple of months ago I pieced together a stack of squares with all their yarn ends, for a friend who had a someone close pass away while making a blanket for a new baby. It showed me that it's not the end of the world to sew tiles (lol) and I decided to keep going with my first tile project. I tried to do some more yesterday but was too racy. I'll definitely be taking it with me next week and I'm sure I'll get some done then 🙂

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It wouldn't be easy living with that raciness either, @CheerBear. Calming hugs to you.

It's great that you have persisted with the tile patterns. Persistence is a good trait for craft and so many other things in life. I couldn't make the videos without a lot of persistence. It may be one of my good traits (touch wood, lol).

Having said that I am struggling with a project at the moment. Hopefully I'll get there in the end.

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Thank you ❤ You have a very calming influence and presence ☺

I can see you being persistent, and patient too probably. While it can be frustrating to struggle through and need to chip away at things, I think it seems to make them extra good feeling when they're finished, like I see your videos giving you. What kind of struggle are you having with your video (if you can/want to share)?

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This video is a different sort of project for me so my 'go to' methods are not really working with it, @CheerBear. I'm working closely via email with a writer who is also the creator of the original images for this one. She has particular ideas about how the video might be, but I am probably not able to deliver what she is envisaging. All of it makes me a feel less confident in the process and a bit anxious that it won't be finished. That does happen sometimes, the not finishing some projects. It's not the end of the world if that happens, but it's clearly preferable if something comes of it, especially when someone else is hoping for it too.

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I can see how that would cause some confidence and anxiety hiccups for you @Mazarita. It sounds like a bit of a mismatch or misalignment (If that's the right word) of ideas rather than a reflection of your skills and talent maybe. It would be difficult at times to work with that pressure of trying to merge different visions. Again wishing I could sneak a peek at what you do!

Better head out and do the morning thing. I hope the rest of your morning goes well if I don't catch up with you again this morning ☺

Enjoy the sunrise 🌞❤

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Cheers, @CheerBear.

Thanks for the chat this morning. Always good to bump into you here in the earlier hours.

Hope the day keeps going at a calmish pace for you.

Catch you later!

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good morning @Mazarita, @CheerBear, @Sophia1, @PeppiPatty, @outlander

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