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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Sorry for th delay there just had to make an appt for pop @eth @Mazarita

Sounds like an easy going day @eth its good to just slow down for a little while isnt it. Todays like a rest day for me to the rest of the week ive got my second job-ive needed to take it up for financial reasons but this jobs only for a few months so i should be on top of everything by then.
My hands very slowly getting there. Ive only got what looks like a smaller hairline fracture now in 2 different spots but should be healed by now so am able to take my cast off on th easy days as theres very littlr chance of knocking it. My very small exercises are very painful. Ive only got to gently stretch my arm out to the side and bring it back do that 5 times twice a day and to also stroke my hand on a towel to get the nerves abit desensitised. Its a long and slow road ahead.

@Mazarita thats really good youve managed some sleep all up. Hopefully the testers come soon so you can catch up on some more sleep. A third coffee sounds good! Im just about to have my first cup of tea for the morning.

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@outlander@Mazarita@eth@CheerBear@Shaz51 @Sophia1Good morning to all the long ravers and those passing by. Wishing you all a lovely sunny day emotionally and and physically. My son has just been picked up and now I am waiting for my mother to come over for coffee. Then off to the doc re a skin cancer which has raised its ugly head again .... (am a bit nervous about it as the surgeon last time said if it comes back I would need surgery ....) would prefer chemo cream again even though it can hurt at times.... will let you all know what she says later.. Wish the pea luck and courage.

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Morning, @Bunniekins. Wishing you strength and good luck with the doctor today. ox

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Morning @Bunniekins
Hope it all goes well today. Sending my best wishes. Remember to take a few deep breaths when you need to 💖

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@outlander hoping the nerves recover and you get some mobility back too. Serious injury!

@Bunniekins sending luck and courage! I had a small cancer on my forehead that was frozen 3 or 4 times but kept coming back so last time the Dr did a 'shave biopsy' to send to pathology and the result was she actually got the whole thing and it hasn't come back. It was done under local anaesthetic and I didn't feel it at all. May something similar be the result of today for you.

@Mazarita can you get yourself spruced up and then doze in your comfy chair til they come?

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Im able to move the other 4 fingers more easily now but still causes alot of pain but its a good start and more than i could do 9 weeks ago. @eth slowly but surley 🙂

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@eth Thanks eth the pea is very nervous

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@outlander thanks outlander I will be thinking of you and everyone tackling their own demons with courage today and that will help me get through it 🙂 xx

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I'd rather be more awake if I can, @eth. Hence three coffees. Also chatting here often helps wake up my mind at least. I'm still half nodding off between blinks but hopefully I'll wake up a bit soon. Once we end the chatting here though, I may well fall asleep in the chair. They can walk in on me snoring, lol (apparently my snoring is very loud, lol).

Hugs, @Bunniekins. Hope you'll update us on it when you get back from the docs.

@outlander, great to read that your hand and arm are getting slowly better.

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@Mazarita dear Maz hugs much appreciated (I love hugs :)) .

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