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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Great that you are getting creative with the new phone, @eth. ❤️

Those colours sound beautiful.

That's a very nice gesture if it was your mum. 🙂

I'm looking forward to talking about sleep with my psychologist today. I really want to go even if I get no sleep! At least then she'll see first hand what we're talking about. I've been to see my psychiatrist, having had no sleep. It's his mantra to me, to avoid these extremes with sleep. Ah well.

Pity you can't post pictures you are doing. I find that very difficult too, aside from shots I grab from the web.

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@Mazarita I hope you get some reassurance from your session with your psychologist.

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Snap! @Mazarita They can say that about sleep as much as they can, it doesn't change the nature of it when you're alone in the wee hours.

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@eth, I think he says it to somehow embed the intent with me. I do listen and am influenced. But it's a bit of a juggernaut for me at times like now.

When do you find out if you are going to the farm?

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@Mazarita sil mentioned that it's unlikely we'll go this before she left for the day as bro doesn't get back til late friday night. Sil might do some day trips instead. She wants to do some painting up there (pictures, not buildings!). She is a brilliant artist and preparing for a solo exhibition at the end of June so wanting to make the most of the time between now and then.

PS I understand about the juggernaut feeling. Just looked up it's definition : a large and powerful force that can not be controlled.

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A solo exhibition is a major undertaking. I understand why sil might want to have some time alone with her art. Bro and sil sound very inspiring.

I was wondering what juggernaut actually meant, wasn't sure, but had the sense it was what you said. Yes, that's how I am with the powerful impulses to sleep very long or stay awake like now.

It's a gorgeous day outside. Looking forward to getting out later. Will you be outside in the garden or anything like that today?

@eth

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@Mazarita gorgeous day here too. Yes I'll be out in the garden - I have to look after my babies! Edible peas, sweet peas and parsley, broccoli and something else (I forget what it was!) are sprouting. Plus many other plants thriving due to 'chook poo tea', seaweed spray and organic (bought) soil with chook poo and compost mixed in. I took a video of it yesterday to show my friends in Darwin - wish I could share it here.

I must get on the exercise bike too - have been inexcusably slack about it this week.

Might start packing for the trip too if I get motivated.

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Sounds like a rewarding day ahead, @eth.

I might go offline now and maybe get a little sleep, or at least rest, before my appointment. I could be back too, lol. But for now, have a lovely day.

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Bye for now @Mazarita have a good rest.

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@Mazarita ❤ Thank you for your kind and caring message earlier, I'm guessing after you saw my vent elsewhere maybe. It's not the light/electricity. The light situation was almost funny (but not). Last night it reminded me of strobe lights at dance parties which was almost fun, or would have been fun if it wasn't crackling and fizzing at the same time. I'm used to dealing with the house now. It doesn't feel good to live here, and it never feels good when things go wrong. It's a stress to need to deal with the owner but it doesn't threaten to tip me over like it used to. Now it's just another thing but it isn't a forever thing, it can't be. I've just lodged the maintainence request after seriously considering whether candles could work as a light source/avoidance strategy.

You're very right in that the DSP process, and the NDIS one which seems similarly painful, have really pushed me. There's other stuff too, that I can't talk about here so it makes me feel like keeping secrets in a way, or like I'm so sad and hurt but I can't give real context or reason. It's like everything merged together at once, or everything often merges together at once maybe. I don't know how to stop that from happening and it can feel like it's too much sometimes.

I'm really hurting, and feeling very sad and very alone with it often. I know it doesn't help me with feeling alone if I am shutting out/down, but sometimes I can't talk so it's stuckness in a way. I'm really sorry if I gave you the impression that my sads had anything to do with you. I genuinely feel the care you have and I truly value and appreciate your company, as I do with many others here. It makes a difference in a nice way.

Hope you are getting some sleep or rest and that your appointment feels good and is helpful for you this afternoon. Thank you for being you. (And sorry for the long reply post that took hours to push post on)

Thanks for your hugs also @outlander. I really appreciate them. Big ones back to you too 😘
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