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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thanks @Mazarita. I was strongly encouraged to look for other options for them for school. We found a couple of schools which are awesome and don't need them to travel way too far away. Some of the schools it was suggested I look at were over an hour on PT away which was not an option I could be OK with. This is fab and if they get into their first choice they have two great options ☺ It's a big relief. I need as much relief as I can get from anywhere I think.

Do you have any bird company happening? It's still very dark here. Traffic is building though which sounds like the morning is starting so they won't be too far away.

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It is fabulous news, @CheerBear.

No bird sounds coming through the glass doors yet. First light here is supposed to be about 6am (looked it up). I wonder if the traffic wakes up the birds before their usual time. Just the kind of thing I sometimes wonder.

So so happy you have some relief on big's school, CB.

I don't have much to talk about really but it's great hanging with you for a bit.

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Sometimes I think I have the opposite problem with talking @Mazarita. Too much to talk about! Whether we chat or not, I do so appreciate hanging out with you, especially in these early hours when it seems the rest of the world is sleeping 😊

7:19 sunrise here. I noticed yesterday how much longer it stays dark for now.

I rwad about bird and worm dreams the other day. I wonder how warm birds really are when it's so cold. I like to imagine them all huddled up together, sheltering each other from the cold. I want to put little tiny socks on their feet because my feet get cold just thinking about theirs!

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Haha, I love your tiny little socks for the birds, @CheerBear. I hope their feathers are warm. I wonder if they do huddle together in trees where they sleep, or whether, like me, they prefer their own spot. These and other questions will not be answered by me unless I go on a net wander one night, in search of learning, like I used to do when the internet was much newer to me. Lol. Oh yes, CB, I too love our late-night/early-morning meetups.

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How did we ever get by before we could find the answer to life's important questions, like do bird's feet get cold @Mazarita? Lol. I've been playing with Google Feud sometimes. Not sure if you know that one, but you try to complete the Google search and see the most searched phrases in a category. It makes me feel a whole lot better about some of the terms in my search history 😆

You brighten my mornings Maz ❤

I'm going to have a shower and do some of the dishes and washing I didn't get to last night I think. Hope you sleep well and soundly when you do get there, and that the rest of your day goes well.

Thinking of you @eth, imagining this week will have its challenges for you. And hugs for you @Bunniekins for the hard times you're facing also. And @outlander love for you. (Just in case I don't get back online today)

❤

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Thanks, the feeling is mutual.

I've not heard of Google feud, @CheerBear, sounds funny.

Enjoy your day, CB. Hugs.

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Good morning @Mazarita @CheerBear @outlander @Appleblossom @Bunniekins @Sophia1 and anyone else around this morning. Just a quick hello before I read back and catch up on the overnight chat. Hope you're all well and looking forward to your day.

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Morning @CheerBear love to you too ❤


Morning @Mazarita @eth @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @utopia @Bunniekins and everyone on here ❤

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Hi @outlander glad to read your arm is making some progress, even if slowly.

Hope today is a better day for you and that you get some rest.

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Thanks @eth

How are you going? How long till you go on your adventure? Any plans for you today?
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