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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Woah @eth, that would have been a long few hours! Did you enjoy going out?

Sorry to hear about Mr Shaz's anxiety @Shaz51. Would be hard for both of you 🙁

Hi to @Mazarita and all. Hope you've had an ok or better afternoon Maz.

We all enjoyed the extra company we had today and it did lift my mood a bit. I went to have that shower and get out of my pjs when one of mine was caught in a 'moment' and by the time we worked through that, company was here, so pj day for me. Never going to complain about that though ☺

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Hi @eth, @outlander, @Shaz51, @Sophia1 and others who might be around,

Eth, that sounds pretty heavy duty with your uncle. I've seen mum completely dominate a table of about 10 people for a few hours, with barely anyone else with a word in. Poor mum, poor us! Poor you with your uncle. Was the food good, at least?

Shaz, glad you and Mr had a relaxed day to calm down his nerves. I so wish you could both retire. Hugs to you both.

My day has improved. I went back to bed about midday and then, while I was still drifting, my friend rang and she and C arranged for us to visit. So I hauled myself out of bed and into the shower. Feel more human just for doing that. Stayed at my friend's place for a couple of hours and back home again. Was great to get a social moment, even though both my friend and I were low in energy.

Hope Saturday evening treats everyone well. ox

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Snap, @CheerBear, posting at almost the same time. So glad your mood was lifted too by social contact today. What are you up to this evening? ox

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🙂 Thanks @Mazarita. Always enjoy hearing about your social moments and the lift it often brings you. It's so tempting to not go ahead with plans or social things sometimes, but it can help.

Nothing much on tonight here. 2 litter ones are still lounge room camping. My big wants to watch a less kid kind of show with me, probably in my room on my laptop.

How about yourself?

Waving hi to @Bunniekins, who I have a feeling may be posting at the same time (and if not, then hi anyway!)

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Adding a hi to @Bunniekins who seems to be around.

@CheerBear, no plans here tonight. The royal wedding is on the tv just next to me. Surprisingly C seems to be watching it for now. I can only hear it from where I sit at my desktop. I have a video project to continue with if I can muster the energy for it. Other than that, it's just a relaxing Saturday night.

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@CheerBear I was thinking about it looking for people who were not watching the royal wedding 🙂 waves back xx

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thank you my scotirish sister @Mazarita , sending you lots of tender hugs too

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@CheerBear CheerBear .... how did you know I was around before I had posted ...?

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I have such little exposure to the outside of these walls world, that I missed this wedding until very recently @Mazarita and @Bunniekins (and probably read about it here)! I understand it's probably a big deal but I don't really get it. Hope whoever is watching is enjoying it though 🙂 Is it something that interests either of you?

Relaxing Saturday night sounds like a pretty good one Mazarita 🙂

How was your day greenpea?

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@Mazarita Hi Maz 😄

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