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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Funny writing to each other on two different threads at the same time, @outlander. Really happy to hear you got some good feelings from the art today. They look lovely and can only get better as you do more of them. I'm going to bed now. Hope you get some sleep, or at least some good rest tonight. ox

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goodnight @Mazarita nice chatting with you, its been a while

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@Mazarita - I believe in the right for people to choose assisted dying too. Just wish it was available here.
Mum has been mentioning that she is tired and won't be around for much longer, for the past few years. So I guess it's not really a surprise.
And she is in so much physical pain. Her memory is really bad and that frustrates her. She is struggling to walk much. Is talking about needing home help soon & how she will hate it.
She realises that she is struggling with driving. She's only 66. But has been sick with fibro myalgia and other conditions for over 25 years now
She said my son will be fine. He is a smart boy.She wanted to stay aaround to help me through my court case - but being that we won't even be able to start the process til next year at the earliest & that it will take about 2 years - she said she just can't wait that long.
She has been such a great mum. Before she got sick she ran her own successful business and was a very strong advocate for women's rights. She has helped me so much with my son. Especially when I've needed hospitalisation. I'm going to be lost without her.
Just glad I have an appointment at lunch todaywith my psychologist. As I don't think I could wait much longer to sort through my feelings about it all.
Thanks for listening.
I'm going back to bed.

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Hi @utopia, just got up from another vivid dream tonight, from which I woke myself up talking out loud. Glad to have woken just now to get your post in real time.

I can't imagine how many feelings and thoughts would be swirling about this announcement from your mother. Relieved to hear you have a psychologist appointment today. So much to talk about. Sending kind wishes at this rare and strange time. Virtual hugs to the max.

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Thank you @Mazarita. ♥♥♥

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Good morning, @CheerBear. Awake at first light today. Always think of you at this time. Hopefully you are still sleeping. I'm probably going back to it shortly. Sending hugs and good vibes for your day.

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Morning @Mazarita and thank you for your good morning message ☺ I have been thinking of you also, as I often do with my early morning coffees. It was a 3:30 start for me this morning which is annoying 😏. I've been working on paperwork and applications all morning. Rolling with the anxious, but productive at least, buzz.

About to get hectic here with things on for the little crew this morning, then an appointment with my mental health worker when they're at school. Hopefully will have some down time later.

Hope the morning goes well for you and all here. Smiles at your message, thanks.

Hugs to you all who may like them ❤

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Hi again, @CheerBear. Good to get your message when I awoke again just now. That's three dreams in one night where I woke myself up speaking out loud the words I was saying in the dream. Go figure! Another side effect from the higher dose of the new med? Who knows.

3am is a very early start but I know it is not completely unusual for you. That's dedication working on paperwork and applications from such an early hour. At least it's proceeding towards completion though. Hope that anxious buzz doesn't have to go on too long.

Best for the little crews things this morning, and for your appointment with mental health worker. Enjoy your down time when you get it later. Hugs again! ox

Good morning, @eth, @outlander, @Sophia1, @Shaz51, @Faith-and-Hope, @Bunniekins and everyone passing through here this morning. Sending warm good wishes for your start to the day. ox

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