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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@outlander @Bunniekins

hello to you both and thank you for thinking of me...

We changed internet providers and only had access again from last night..

how are you both feeling at the moment?

I remember reading quite a few days ago now that someone had written that there are quite a few forumites not feeling the best...

I wonder if it is a seasonal change as well..

How are you being treated at home now outlander?

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couldnt log on for a few minutes from forum maintance

oh @Former-Member thats not good for you. pain is really horrible. can you try heat packs for abit of pain relief? i find it helps with my spine though yours is alot worse than mine. im sorry to hear your struggling atm, is there anything i could help you with?

im holding up ok, keeping busy and making sure everyones ok. went to the drs yesterday for chest pain and it seems whatever is causing my stomach issues is also causing the chest pain. one bloody thing after another.

winters suppose to be a shocking flu season this yr, lets hope not

afternoon @eth howd your appts go today?

@Bunniekinshope your days going ok, i seen on the carers side you were having abit of a rough time atm

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oh @outlander

that is not good news to hear...so where to now? more jolly tests no doubt...I hope that you have have thorough blood testing...

the medical world really does consist of process of elimination in so many areas...

you are such a support to others here even when you feel so unwell...I hope that you are proud of yourself...you are practising self care and at the same time supporting others within your limitations as that is a part of who you are...

you are lovely xx

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@Former-Memberi would much rather help others, it helps me too

ive had bloods done and everythings come back ok, they thought a bacteria (h/pylori) was causing it but its not that. they think its either gastritis or a stomach ulcer or both. my regular gp wants me to keep an eye on it, keep taking the antacids twice a day, limit anything that irritates my stomach which is pretty much everything, very small meals if and when i can mange them as eating makes it painful. my reg gp doesnt know about the chest pain thats relatively new so i speak to her on monday about it. she might want to jump straight to the endoscopy after hearing that.

other than that keep coping the best i can and try and reduce stress which isnt going to work atm considering my great grandmother passed away and pop is having a hard time of it so need to watch him more too as well as everything on top.

well that was a ramble and a half- sorry

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Hi everyone

Which @Former-Member is on?

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Hello @outlander, its me. Everything OK?

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it might sound better coming from you- can you please take a look at the worry room- ive been trying to help a member and thats not the problem. the thread isnt being used quite for its purpose- let it out and walk away. ive been encouraging them to start their own thread but they brush it off. id really like her to have support and her chance to share her story. theres heaps of members i feel could help her but not alot go and have a conversation on that thread- im worried its stopping other from being able to comment and walk away with such a heavy convo going on @Former-Member could you help at all?

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Hi @outlander,

I had a read over the posts in the worry room. I think that you made a great suggestion, regarding the member starting her own thread. I also read the members reaction though, in which she seemed to suggest that sometimes peoples responses make her feel worse, making her reluctant to follow you advice. I think at this point, we need to respect where she is at with is, although I totally understand that it's hard, when you can see somebody struggling. Please email if you'd like to chat about this further...

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no thats ok, thoughts id run it by you @Former-Member ill keep the convo over there

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Just quickly popping by to say Hi to everyone here.

I wish I had a proper magic wand to make all our troubles and trials to go away, but this is the best I can do ...
wish I could answer everyone's posts, and wish I could do more to help. Have to go eat now myself.

With wishes for a better afternoon for everyone.

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