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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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A productive day already @soul glad you got abit of sleep.. i hope you enjoy lunch with your kids

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Good morning @soul Hope you enjoy your family gathering later. And that you enjoy prepping for a meal to share with others as much as I do.

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hello @eth

so this is similar to a medical directive....where a person can authorise someone to ensure that their wishes are carried out if they are not in a medically safe state of mind legally..

except in your case it is more safety plan in crisis and post crisis to alleviate as much confusion for those helping you/...

I will come back later...

am not too good today...not best night last night...too much talk about upcoming procedure...no call from consultant...have major concerns re son which I won't go into on the forums...

take care big hugs to all of you xxx

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Thinking of you @Former-Member. Take care and wishes for a peaceful day

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Hello Mazy @Mazarita ,
I can understand your rave 🙂 Wow, from sweeping silence to a 6 lane highway . . . YUK!! Needs must hey! Aren't we lucky to have found somewhere to let some of that sh*t out 😉
I think while I'm writing this, you might be on public transport in what I think is the biggest city this country has, & again, all I can say to that is Wow .... YUK! 🙂
You are being incredibly brave & that takes amazing strength! I'm proud of you 🙂
Love to you Mazy
Niqua

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Yeah I’ve been telling self getting a new mattress for over a year now @Former-Member yes its very important re sleep also re back etc

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Hi @NameUnknown we can talk here if you want to.

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Thanks @eth im happy to talk about most things to do with my mental health

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Some time while Mum is in the bath to write to friends here. Today it's just been me and Mum at her place, along with the roar of traffic, an ever constant here on the six-lane highway. Trucks, trams, cars, motorbikes, all racing somewhere unknown at all hours of the day and night. Mum is really getting pretty deaf at this point, so our conversations tend to be at fairly high volume too. These are not things I'm used to and I mostly like quiet. So even a rest day here has it's stresses. I've taken some prn meds this evening, hoping for a better mood than I've been in today: edgy, irritable, picking on Mum a bit again when she's really being sweet in her intentions. At least I made it up to her with a hug and explanation of how on edge I have felt in general today. Sometimes rest days are when the deferred social stresses come home to roost.

I am missing the relative peace of home. I'm missing C. I'm missing my own bed, and my good friend up there. At the same time, Mum and I have generally been getting on better than ever before. It has been great to catch up with so many old friends and creative colleagues, even if exhausting.

Screening is in a few days. I am nervy and edgy about that too. Main thing I am concerned about is technical issues. Projection of films and videos can be well or poorly done and it's basically out of your hands how well or otherwise presented. It makes a huge difference to the audience experience of the work. I've had some bad experiences with this in the past. They make you wonder why you bother doing anything at all. I so hope this aspect of the screening is okay. I know the people organising it are doing their best within limited technical means, and am grateful for their time and interest regardless of how it turns out on the night.

After a pretty solid sleep last night, I still ended up napping for about four hours today. That's how exhausting the spin that is this city is affecting me. So glad I've had this day for some recovery before the next round of sociality.

Haven't had time or energy to keep up with what's been happening for my 'pen pal' friends here on the forum, except in small snippets of reading. Looking forward to catching up when I return.

Hugs and love, Maz ox

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One the highlights of my day was catching this post in real time 😊

Thinking of how you're going with the busy has made me think of how busy it really can be where I am here. It's non stop movement and I can see how you could use time out from it, especially when you're not used to it and you'd prefer the quieter moments. It would be really unsettling at times I imagine.

It's really nice to hear you're getting along well with your mum, even if time together is having it's challenges.

Huge hugs to you (from closer than usual) and sending you my best wishes for your screening in a few days @Mazarita 💗

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