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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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i agree @Mazarita i have a hard time with people offline too. you would think being able to see them in person is easier but not really hey. i hope something can be resolved and theres a good outcome for you

no worries @eth only flicking on an off today

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Hugs, @outlander. Thank you for understanding. Hope you find some good feelings in today, maybe when you get a couple of hours later for yourself.

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@Mazaritai hope your day improves too

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It has past 'Potatoe Hour' & I am getting off the Forum at least {maybe not off-line & off comp yet . . . it is Sunday ;)} But I just wanted to drop another gift off for Mazy @Mazarita It's a bit of a 'secret code' LOL 😄 She'll know I care

Oh & Mazy, if this so-called friend in real-life is stupid enough to dump you, I'll selfishly snavel up all the bits they break & throw away, I'll wrap them in love & the softest silk, let them heal & grow - & I'll be the 1 that gets to enjoy the benifits of such a loyal, loving, trusting, wise, accepting, wonderful, magical Mazy

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Looking forward to the secret code message, Niqua. You are spoiling me with riches today!

One (slightly fractured) extra piece of love from me coming your way. @Former-Member

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Oh & just 1 more.

I think there are many lions roaming this Forum

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Niqua, images are through now. You may be glad to hear the rubber ducky visited only yesterday! I adore the image of the lion, and the words with it. Thank you again. Big big hugs for cheering me up. Sending love and happy vibes for the rest of your day! @Former-Member

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Lovely @Former-Member

I have a greater affinity with lions these days, with my zoo experiences, and my sikh neighbour has a name that means lion.

@MazaritaI had a good concert but am feeling a bit low because the lady I sang next to was a bit picky and and coolled towards me. we had spoken about plying recorder together, but I cannot be bothered if it is going to be pedantic and competitive. I have ears and picked up a few mistakes on her part but I dont make a big things about such things. Never mind. My son got out of bed early and dragged himself all the way into the city for me. So that was impressive. I think I am just fragile after weathering a few too many storms recently. Hope both our moods pick up.

Cheers @outlander @eth @Shaz51

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It's unfortunate when our critical minds get too much in the way of our creativity, @Appleblossom. Pity about the woman next to you being picky in that manner. I'm probably not in the best mood today to advocate pursuing difficult friendships, though my (perhaps ex) friend and I have at least communicated a bit further and left things on a civil note, so that if we meet again, we can be unafraid. It's great that your son dragged himself from the bed to attend your concert. As someone who has struggled severely with mornings for long periods, I know that is a very big deal that he came. Feel free to unravel storms here as you wish. Alternatively, as you suggested yesterday, leave them 'unpacked' for as long as you wish. Hearing you either way.

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Good evening @Appleblossom, @Mazarita, @Former-Member, @outlander, @eth

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