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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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I think I forgot to tag you on the other post, @eth. Not much more than the usual lag here, sometimes up to 5 minutes or so. I'm starting to pick up a little bit now, have made the bed and turned on music. I may not go with my friend to the inspection though. There's usually too many people for me to go in anyway, and I'm not sure it's helping her for me to be there. I am thinking I might wait at home and get the application ready to be submitted.

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Sounds like a good plan @Mazarita. Extra independence might be good for her.

I'm on my second coffee really hoping it picks me up so I can do some paperwork this afternoon. I need to update the household diary, I've been putting it off for more than 2 weeks for no apparent reason. Plus now that I have a little more knowledge of wordpad and keyboard shortcuts I might have a go at the course exercises and/or typing up my WRAP. I looked at it yesterday and it's been 3 months (!!!) since I did the first page and a half. Shocking how long I can put things off for.

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I've given up counting how long I can put things off for, @eth.

The more depressed I am the worse that gets.

What is your household diary?

I think Wordpad is a 'text only' piece of software, is that right? I use Notepad extensively, which is a 'text only' software. Word is too expensive for me so I use Open Office. But more often I use Notepad. So simple and good and universally translatable across word processing systems, I seem to remember.

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I have OpenOffice too @Mazarita That's what I started doing the WRAP on. I'll probably keep using it as it's stupidly complicated to insert a page break on WordPad.

The household diary is one we all use with all my appointments in it as well as all the times bro is away (frequently) and dates that I need transport from one of them as well as dates PHaMs is coming. It worked quite well last year.

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Ah, sounds like Wordpad is a bit more developed than Notepad, @eth. No page breaks, no formatting, just text in Notepad. It's great though because it doesn't bring over strange formatting codes when you copy and paste it into any document, email, forum, wherever. I love the basic simplicity of it.

The household diary sounds great. I have a little dates diary that I write everything in. It is so incredibly helpful. Again a simple thing that makes things so much easier.

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We all have our individual diaries as well @Mazarita. And sit down and go over them all with each other every so often.

I don't know what formatting codes are, still a dinosaur with this stuff but the courses I'm doing should help with that. It's years since I regularly created documents at all and I haven't learned any of the current programs for that yet. There are so many basic functions I still need to learn e.g. attaching a document to an email, using folders and much more. Pretty ironic as once upon a time I was a medicolegal secretary.

Bro sometimes tries to teach me how to do things on the computer, but most times I get overwhelmed trying to follow him. He goes too fast for me. The advantage of the courses being for seniors is that they are very patient.

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I would not be skilled to get work I had previously in legal word processing, @eth. Because I am not technically skilled now with the latest MS Word. Main reason though is just that I couldn't go at that pace anymore, or handle the pressure and stress. Couldn't handle it then really. Was only ever hanging on by threads in the work place.

Formatting codes sometimes show up when copying and pasting from Office or Word, for example. They should be invisible but sometimes incompatibility of the software creates odd characters in the text.

It's going to be great learning how to do all those things. It was also a huge learning curve for me going from film-making on celluloid to learning digital technology.

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Me too re the work place then and now @Mazarita.

I'm looking forward to the learning curve, but it will be much slower than it used to be. I don't really have faith in my brain anymore, both cognitive ability and memory seem to be reduced. Meds probably don't help with the memory, neither does PTSD or depression. When I'm hyper I learn a lot quickly, but when I come down again I forget most of it. These days I write everything down obsessively when hyper so that I can rediscover it at other times.

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Significant loss of brain power here too, @eth, over a long time. Age may have something to do with it, but mostly I think it's living an incredibly stressed life in the first four decades of my life, as well as side effects of medications now. But, as I rise slowly out of the extremely depressed state I was in some years ago, I find my mind is making some new connections and seems to be improving again, at least to some extent.

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Good news about brain improvement @Mazarita. Hoping it happens for me too.

I should go and get into some of those tasks I mentioned. It's been good chatting IRT again. Enjoy your afternoon and your friend's company. Catch you later.

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