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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Sounds good @Shaz51

10.45am here.

So I've got a while to go yet, till lunch time

Adge

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oh the West, of course @Adge well hope lunch is okay. I did 4 days in hosp like 2 years ago. loved the routine and to just be able to sit and watch. the tea trolley, lunch , etc etc

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Hey @Adge Lovely to see you on the forums but sorry it is not under better circumstances. Miss chatting to you 💕

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Hey Tabby Cat @TAB How's life?

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.. I coulda said the same re @Adge , well and you and prob a few others. it's good when people improve their lot and go off here, notso much otherwise. I spend wayy too much time on here tho lol

Success list (not exhaustive)

  • @MDT working, relationship, going O/S
  • @oceangirl working, busy , happy
  • @Appleblossom busy, engaged,spreading wings into Life
  • @Judi9877 studying, focused.

and a few that went on to being peer workers Good on them All.

um, nor sure when we last talked.

I moved back to SA?

bought house w inheritance and moved in gosh 6 ish months ago now.

house being set up is within sight now, next steps a few more outside blinds and have shadesail to put up, needing a lounge and some kitchen drawers and cupboards and wardrobe, but not in a rush. I:

  • got insulation in ceiling.
  • got all whitegoods
  • kitchen furniture, bed etc
  • had ceiling fans installed and smoke alarm as wasnt one.
  • had 2 huge trees in back yard cut down, was dubious about that, but its more of a long term thing, plus had surface roots visible 10 metres away, pretty sure was in septic. not getting that fixed in a hurry so had to become a bit aware and got ''éarth'' cleaners and collecting tins to make soap holders to put under taps for washing etc lol well could smell septic if close to it but am imagining not noticed it since threw bad cleaners out (?) .. did not realise everything goes into septic. back on farm as kid, was open drain 20 metres from house and the only thing that was connect to septic was toilet

Anyway, also health issues, am trying to work on getting some level of basic fitness need to lose a Lot, going to take time.

Had some pretty good jobs , one actually went through with medical and got told to go to emergency lol

um not had any visitors for a while, not expecting any, dont feel like going anywhere, just waiting for xmas here I guess. will be on my own again, bla bla, ok thats bout it

are you still not well ? how are things going with you ?

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@Adge

Hey good to see you posting. Wish it were under better circumstances. I have been a glum bum last couple of days as my busyness was reduced cos someone got covid. Did not expect my mood to plummet. It is wot it is. Take care Mate

@TAB Great summary of forum news.

I noticed that weird glitch a few times with other people. Something about how the forum threads are wired???

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.. yeah I had something similar w dates and times @Appleblossom in the end seemed fix itself or was never wrong, no it was , link would take you to very first page in thread .. anyhoo..

well thats a learning thing re mood . Better prepared next time I guess. covid seems to be getting around again lately ..

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Evening all @Adge I hope you get the help you need and feel better soon.

@TAB hope everything works out well with your house, I'm in SA as well and my son's school had some covid cases in his year, he was lucky tested him and he didn't have it, but we are hearing more about it going around again.

@Appleblossom @Zoe7 @Mazarita @Shaz51 nice to catch up on some posts, been having trouble with my eldest son again missed a out a week again on here, I do miss not coming on here to see how everyone is going, gets lonely when I don't,

seeing my psychiatrist tomorrow so hoping he can help me with some suggestions on how to

cope with my eldest as he always triggers me and it's really hard sometimes to just get through each day and not give up.

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Hi @Zoe7

Good to see you too.

Yes I miss chatting to you too.

I just find it really hard to communicate via text/ typing.

Having Dyslexia

That's the primary reason for my absence from the forums.

Certainly not any lack of interest.

It takes me an age just to do a short brie message.

Adge

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okay that must be frustrating @Adge Hope there is some good in you day today.

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