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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Glad you are not thinking of leaving. @eth

Taking breaks, especially well earned ones are essential. Good you are getting beyond essential and having some fun. I still struggle with self sabotage when life looks as if it might be good. If life does not send a downer I make one myself. Embracing "working with" seems to help me.

@Anastasia @BPDSurvivor @Owlunar @MDT and all who pass ...

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Apple 👋

@Appleblossom

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Ohhhhh @Appleblossom I am riding that self sabotage train with you my friend!!!!

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Hey @eth always good to hear from you, but totally appreciate balancing on and off forum life! I'm a bit the same lately with a few peer-work things cropping up irl.

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Hi and good morning to all passing here today. Just passing by to say Hi on a lovely cool spring morning. Sun shining and things to look forward to. Hope it's like that for others too.

@Maggie @BPDSurvivor @Owlunar @Anastasia @Appleblossom @MDT @frog thankyou all for your understanding and support.

And Hi also to @Shaz51 @Bunniekins @Angels333 @Former-Member @Judi9877 . Thanks to you all for your tags the last few days. I'll try to get around and respond to you this morning.

I have my facilitation training again today, plus an outing with a support worker and a zoom meeting with the disability alliance crew, so not here for long. Just want to say how much I appreciate being tagged and included even tho' I'm not here as much. It helps me jump back in when I'm able to.

Hope today is a gentle one with good bits in it everyone. Take care and stay kind all xoxo

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Hi @eth

It's always good to see you and certainly we will tag you. It seems you are super busy right now - I will be looking forward to the lock-down ending and being busy myself -

I hope your Friday is the best it can be and wish you the best

Dec

Enjoy a change of pace if possible

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Hey @Owlunar I've realised lately that I'm way more engaged socially and involved with community participation activities now than I have been for years. And it's actually because of covid that many of the things I'm doing happen via zoom - a meeting platform online. I wouldn't be able to do as much if I actually had to go out to do it. So I'm in no way saying covid is a good thing, but for some of us who tend to isolate the widespread use of zoom has meant a breakthrough in social capacity. I'm just hoping I will find ways to stay involved once things go back to face to face in person meetings.

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Hi @eth I'm really happy that you're involved in lots of proactive community participation.

It's a really interesting insight:

'the widespread use of zoom has meant a breakthrough in social capacity'

Cheering you on,

frog

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Thanks heaps @frog Hope you are having one of the better days today xx

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