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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Yep, wet colourful fluffballs, shaking it everywhere @Zoe7

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That is such a wonderful thing for you to be able to see @Adge Just the thought of it brings a smile to my face.

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Hey @Zoe7 Good on you for getting organised with paint. I will be starting my pathway before my paint job. Always something to do on a house. You have to be able to live in it too.

@AdgeYuck on the snails. It took a long while for me to get over my "respect for life" or squeamishness, but I will try @Bunniekins idea. I have already sprinked some bait so who knows ... what will work.

@MazaritaJust great to have you back. Naughty and nice sounds good.

I have come a long way from when I have joined forum. So many words and ideas would set me off ... as @PeppiPatty once said about me, gradually my language was getting relaxed. I am reclaiming my native tongue without all the pain. I knew I was a bit thorny back then, but still had to perservere a lot and loosen up.

@ethLovely to hear about your mandala, gardening and your routine management. I hope in the end it weaves its way into a lovely grounded artful lifestyle. Yay the birds. They do that ... get drunk and raucous.

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Yeah you do @Appleblossom My couch is in the middle of the room presently with everything else pushed together ot moved out. Tobes is still sleeping on top of the couch but Cat isn't quite sure what is happening - but she is finding ways to move around and avoid Toby when she can.

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Its also great to be able to feel our actions can make a difference and gradually our house becomes a home reflecting our personality.

@Zoe7

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My little house certainly suits me @Appleblossom and I am slowly making it how I want it to be. I haven't changed the paint colour much - the walls are a little lighter and the trims will be a little darker but it certainly matches what I like. The colours of the house originally and the older features drew me to it - so me I could not see myself in a newer house - love the older cottage style and it is perfect for me and my fur babies.

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I do respect life very much @Appleblossom Insects are essential - entire ecosystems would collapse, without them.

Whereas mammals can disappear, without any such disastrous impact.

My appreciation does not extend to voracious eaters, that wipe out everything in their path (snails).

Adge

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@Adge

I know you have great respect and knowledge of many forms of life.

I totally agree re ecosystems and was excited when insects appeared, but still ec osystem is one word and there are a lot of realities that make up that one word.

It has taken me a while to put all my different forms of knowledge into the right drawers and garden beds ....

@Zoe7 I used to an old house type of person, its very obvious in my new house, that finally people are calling old?? All the old houses in my city are in high flying real estate areas. A big problem is how many have been knocked down for hi rise. One of the things I love about Tassie is its history.

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hello and hugs @Appleblossom , @Mazarita , @Adge , @Zoe7 , @Bunniekins , @eth , @Valentine , @Former-Member , @PeppiPatty

how is everyone today

very hot up here

and resting after the last couple of days

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My house is about 47 years old @Appleblossom @Zoe7

All the houses in this area were built as Public Housing (Homeswest), then sold off privately many decades later.

They are small houses, brick veneer (thin brick, hollow walls) - when the standard here has always been double-brick (all houses).

These houses have asbestos inside the walls - some have asbestos roofs (my neighbour's).

Somehow people managed to raise entire families, in these tiny houses....

The bonus is that the roof & frame timbers are all Jarrah - which is very hard, & extremely expensive (now).

Almost impossible to obtain Jarrah these days.

Termites hate Jarrah, it's too hard for their "beaks" to get into, so less termite problems.

The floorboards are Jarrah, I love floorboards...

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