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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hey @Mazarita Always good to see you Hon. Hugs and hugs

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Missed your last post last night @Appleblossom Hope you found some music that lightened your mood. And that you're having a nice start to the day. Hope you get your river walk in.

Good to see you @Mazarita and to read your lovely thoughtful post with such good advice and support in it. I am so glad you feel ok about this thread having been kept going. I find it's the place where I feel most at home of all the forum. More so than threads even started by me as they are mostly on specific topics (NDIS, self-care in times of distancing, recovery resources, going right back to my first thread about travelling with bipolar onset - September 2014! & etc). You've been a mate since way back then. 5 1/2 years!!

Hope you are having a day with some enjoyment in it.

Re: my psychologist - I don't think pushing her any harder would be helpful - might put her off being helpful to me with the paperwork, referral etc. She's having what the Dr's are calling a 'geriatric' pregnancy and has also been quite unwell for a couple of weeks twice out of the last 6 weeks or so. I do think she's doing her best and am trying to tell myself she's always been reliable and also that sometimes life just happens in a way we can't control (even for therapists). I'm quietly hopeful (amidst the anxiety) that even if she has to stop consultations she will still finish what she has said she will do. I guess mostly what I'm feeling is the fear of uncertain and imminent change. Always hard to say goodbye to a good therapist and start with a new one.

Feeling you about cynicism and human distress in these times. Do my best to focus on the possible positives to come out of this period of hibernation and reflection, but it's not always an easy thing to do. I think a lot of us are having waves of one or the other.

Hi also to @MDT @Bunniekins @Adge @Zoe7 @Exoplanet @Angels333 and anyone else passing here today.


Take care and stay kind everyone xx

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Hi @eth

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ohhhh my awesome Scotirish Sister @Mazarita

it is sooo great to see you here and I love reading your messages

hello and hugs @Zoe7 , @eth , @MDT , @Bunniekins

it is sunny and a bit warm today

I am doing a "stay at home photography ", making a collection here

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Hi @Zoe7 sorry I just saw your post now - not keeping up this morning coz I've been writing longish posts that take quite a while to do. Hope today is as restful for you as can be xoxo

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Hi @eth @Shaz51 I hope you are well.

I'm very tired (zonked) today.

I've just been out briefly, bird-shopping.

I brought home a lovely St Helena Waxbill finch - she has no mate, but she will be happy with my other gentle Bengalese finches & canaries.

Plus one Orang/Brown Canary, he's lovely.

Adge

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Beautiful @Adge I can guess how much better adding to your winged family must make you feel.

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what colours is the St Helena Waxbill finch @Adge

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@Mazarita

Hi Maz - it's good to hear from you

I never get around to reading everything here - I only deal with the most recent notifications and sometimes get into a conversation with someone and run out of time and that's the way it is - I think I wouldn't do a really good job if I tried to keep up with everything and everybody - and the best we can do is our best

So - I am glad you write when you do and I am glad to read what I can catch up with

The crisis we are all living with is a challenge - I find thinking of the next six months too hard - I can only think of today and tomorrow and that's enough - when I woke up this morning I thought - the coronavirus still? - but I did feel better than I have for a couple of days with an annoying headahce gone - and my daughter dropped in after she did her grocery shopping - well - I was inside near the open front door and she was outside on the porch and we exhanged Easter presents - had a short chat - and it was good to see her even though it did seem a little strange standing in the chilly draft

So seeing as this thread does move fast I really don't know how you are right now but @eth is looking arter it well

All the best and have the happiest Easter possible

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@Owlunar xx

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