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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @Former-Member

I agree about @Adge's sometimes funny, sometimes inspirational posts, and usually hit the like when I see them. A comment would be more sociable, but my energy is generally very low for now, am in some kind of shock response to life as it is now.

Seems we are both up late tonight. How are you going?

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Hi @Bunniekins seems like you are online as well in this late night. How have you been?

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@Mazarita Hey Mazzy 🙂 I have been okish. Have had to adjust to changes due to covid-19 like everyone else and it has been tough going. Especially changes of online consultations with pdoc and changes of support workers. Just taking time to adjust to it all. How have you been? I havent felt like talking much lately ..... it will change I hope soon :). Are you feeling a bit better my dear friend Mazzy? I went for a walk this morning with neighbour and will again tomorrow if the weather is not too atrocious. I like the rain dont get me wrong but not walking in it when the wind is blowing a gale as well and you end up coming home drenched lol. Take care dear Mazzy. I love you. peaxxx

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Thanks @Former-Member I do appreciate your thoughts.

Yes sometimes often nobody notices.

Yet I find them inspiring, so I still put them there.

Adge

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@Adge sorry I have no idea where things are with the new layout. Also I'm on a laptop which I think looks different to if you're on a phone.

By the way, I always notice your memes (sometimes delayed if I'm not tagged) and always hit support when I see them. You are seen here for sure and appreciated by lots of us.

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Hi @eth I hope you're having a good day.

I use desktop computer, forum on Mob phone doesn't work well (very glichy).

Yes new forum layout is confusing - I'll work it out eventually, maybe in about 6 months time.

Still no contact to replace my face-to-face contacts (activity groups), that were all cancelled.

My Yoga Academy does not "Do it Online", they've totally shut down (no classes).

I have no use for online yoga classes (offered elsewhere), have Yoga DVD's which are not similar either.

"Embrace isolation" (not being able to see anyone) seems to be the only healthy way to go (very hard when a social person like me).

Otherwise the constant expectation of "Somehow do everything Online" (including Blowing my nose) is Crushing & Disempowering - I cannot do it online, it does not work for me, is unhelpful & is inappropriate.

Yes I do have some very Good News (blessings) - maybe will say later, if people are interested.

Adge

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I hear you @Adge about all contacts ceasing. A big one for me today is my group therapy (DBT) group at the hospital I check in weekly with the psychologists there. It's so necessary.

The annoying thing is that group is still running just my son's work has changed to afternoon shift to enable social distancing in the workshop and now I have to drive him to work right at the same time group is on, hence missing out on DBT.

Angels333

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Do tell @Adge re news, well when you feel like it. Change can be hard, especially if its hard to see why (eg Sane site)

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@Adge Bring on the good news Adge!:Dx

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Hi @Angels333 I'm sorry to hear that.

Your DBT Group is one that I would definitely attend (myself), if it was the only thing still running.

Okay, "Good News" @TAB @Bunniekins

Work did an Internal Audit of Pay Scales (Rates/ Pay Points) - going back several years.

I have no idea why they suddenly decided to do this.

I received an email from work HR (via Regional Manager), which said that I have been paid at the wrong (low) Rate.

Since I have worked there for almost 4 years - that amounts to a Large Back Pay.

Several Week's of Full-Time Wages (my hours have been low, I'm P/T).

They have promised it to be in my next pay - I shall wait with Baited Breath....

I have been Over-drawing accounts, going into Arrears for the past 12 months (at least).

So I really did need this Miracle....

Adge

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