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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning @eth good point re yoga breaths

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Hey @TAB by hope you're doing ok today. Gotta go have a shower and then get ready for my psychologist skype at 11. Take care xoxo

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Hey @Adge

I hope your OK re prostate....

And sorry about your BP....

I hear you re work. I have lost my job as of last Thursday, in a bit of financial difficulty now.

The weird thing for me is now that everything has stopped I don't know what to do. I am so bored already. I have a painting to work on but I'm no motivated.

Just like you all my support groups have cancelled. I do apparently have DBT group therapy on at the local hospital, I am amazed it is still on.

Anyway sorry to read how tough it is for you, I will pray for you xx

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Thanks @eth hope your day goes okay . I dont do xxs soz lol might go to 3rd shop shortly think hadnt really thought this through re isolation ok veg etc then stay home as long as poss

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Hi to everyone here @Mazarita @Angels333 @Adge @cutiepiekitty @TAB and anyone else dropping by. I'm a bit over doing the mass tags and only hearing back from a few people. Takes a lot of energy to do it, and I don't have that spare currently. @Former-Member @Faith-and-Hope @Zoe7 @CheerBear @outlander @Shaz51 @Teej @frog @Maggie @Former-Member @WriterMelb @Appleblossom @Queenie @MDT @Exoplanet @Sophia1 and also anyone I've been chatting with recently - sorry if I've missed you.

Today I had my psychology appointment by skype and it was much better being able to see her. Last week we just did a phone call and it felt quite surreal. I really have a good connection with her but ...... she will go on maternity leave at the end of April and is finding it hard to find a suitable replacement for me. The current environment seems to have really changed things on that front. It seems lots of therapists are closing their books to new clients. I really hope that shifts as people get more used to doing things via technology and not face to face in person. I'm not sure how I would cope without a psychologist in my health team. She will be away for 6-9 months she says.

We talked a lot about the need to have boundaries with some things in this climate so as to protect my own mental health. That I really have to weigh up benefit vs risk in every situation and every interaction. Greatly reduce fb time and possibly reduce my hours on the forums, at least some days. I'd love to be able to support as many people as possible, but I have to be realistic about my own needs too. Will see how I go with setting a timetable for being on here. Not sure what that will look like yet. But I will honour my commitment to the Saturday Soiree - all welcome!!

I also had an hour phone support from one of my support workers and we also talked a lot about strategies to increase positivity and self-care, and how to manage the times when my anxiety or fear rise.

I do feel lucky to have the support I do in my offline life as well as places like here, but I'm also conscious of the need to more tightly monitor and manage my mental health status - I've been realising how easy it would be to tip over into hypomania or depression. Or just get completely swamped.

Sending warm wishes to all who read this. Take good care and stay kind xx

@TAB I don't expect xxs in return but will continue to sign off with them unless I am chatting with you directly.

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Lol @eth re 'x' s 😷 sorry am distracted re your post but guess you will get another psych?

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Self care and external support is so important for so many of us at this time @eth so good that you can still access that for the time being.

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Keep accessing the help you need hey @eth

All good. I hope that you find a suitable psych.

You are scoring goals 🙂

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Hey @eth , I am one of the ones that doesn't always reply to you and I'm sorry. I do always read your posts though and am supporting you from my home.

I find it tiring to post on the forum and I only post every other day but I love to read and keep up. Not an equal relationship I know. I will try and make more of an effort xx

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Hi @eth Know just how hard it can be. I am in a bad place at the moment and have to get used to new counsellor and only talk to them on the phone.

Someone is trying their best to get at me, including having me falsely arrested. Just too many problems currently

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