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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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No worries about being on this thread @Former-Member . It was originally started by @Mazarita (you can see her edited intro on page 1). It evolved over time and was moved to a more social area of the forums ...'our stories'. I'm sure @Mazarita would welcome you here too. She was away for several months doing life, but has returned recently. Some of us kept the thread alive during her absence. For quite a long time now it's been a place where it's ok to do a long rave about what's happening for you, or just socialise and meet people. There is kind of a core group of regulars here supporting and interacting with each other, but newcomers are always made welcome. Take care xx

Look forward to catching up today @Mazarita xx

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Good morning @Appleblossom @Former-Member @MDT @Adge @Mazarita lots of events being cancelled in our town too. Including the writers festival that I was really looking forward to. Still, it's important to err on the side of caution at this stage in my opinion. You're right Sherry, it's an awful time to be self-employed or in a small business, food and bev., tourism ... the list goes on. Interestingly my sister's cafe has only lost 10% of their business at this stage, but I'm sure that will change. I've felt a shift in how people are responding just in the last few days.

I'm sure there will be solidarity amongst forumites as we are all having to spend more time at home, which means alone for a lot of us. And a lot of people are having more anxiety than usual (myself included in case it's not obvious) - so let's all pull together crew.

Hi also to @Faith-and-Hope @Bunniekins @Zoe7 @CheerBear @Exoplanet @Shaz51 @MDT @outlander @Meowmy @TAB @Sophia1 @Sofia @Snowie @Sans911 @BlueBay @Eden1919 @The-red-centaur @Gazza75 @Scarecrowe @Bimby2 @Ant7 @Jacques @Teej @NNY @WriterMelb @Silenus @Valentine @Jaz5 @Former-Member @Everan @eudemonism @jamesle2015 @JosRapp @saturnzoon @octavia @oceangirl @utopia @Wanderer @Angels333 @frog @TheVorticon @Former-Member @s-jay and @Former-Member s. And anyone I've missed including newcomers.

Sending everyone my best wishes for good physical health and enough support for mental health issues in these challenging times. Since I'm staying at home more I'll probably be here more. Reach out and keep reaching out folks.

My psychologist just arranged to do my appointment by phone on Wednesday.

She's got a cold (and is about 7 months pregnant) so is self-isolating. But good news for my brother - the person he's been looking after tested negative so my brother can come home. We now have a plan for if we need to isolate from each other here. Luckily we can set up 3 quite separate areas - bro would have the front of the house on this block (separate bathroom), I would have the cabin and the back bathroom, and sil would go next door with her Mum (who would need a carer anyway). Hopefully it won't come to that anyway.

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heres some people to talk with @Former-Member

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Thanks @eth 😃 Hello @Mazarita and thanks for allowing me on your thread. I have been reading your posts for a long time, so am aware of whats going on for you. 💕 Hope to chat at some stage in future.

@eth Sounds like a sensible and practical arrangement with your psych. At least your appointment did not need to be cancelled.

Ahhh .. now that is a relief that your brother has not got the COVID-19. But its a good thing to be prepared in case it does come to needing to self-isolate. Sounds like you have everything well covered.

I am just tagging another fairly new member here @eth @Mazarita ... hope you dont mind. I have been speaking to @Former-Member on the Worry Room thread. I'm trying to convince her that its a good idea to open a thread to discuss all that she has written on the Worry Room thread. We are not supposed to respond on that thread as you know. I did, but only to suggest she copy and paste onto a new thread where other members can respond and offer support.

Hope everyone here has a good day today .. and if not good ... at least safe.

Sherry 💕

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Hi @Former-Member and @Former-Member and welcome to the forums.

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Hey @eth good news about your bro hey

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Sure is @MDT . How are you managing it all? Can you work from home?

Hi to you too @TAB

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@Millieme @Dani1981<br><br>Here is a thread that @eth has <br><br>Eth, these are some newbies from my new thread.<br><br><br>I do think a 2 week stint is looking increasingly likely.<br><br>They need to ensure that pressure is not put on the health system. This is the logic behind self isolation and 500 people gatherings getting a ban and 2 weeks for international arrivals.<br><br>I suspect that it will get to a point where they do it anyway.<br><br>If my reading of the data is anything to go by then the covid virus moves around and sometimes with no symptoms. <br><br>Good news it won't end us. Its not the plague. Its just a threat to the elderly, the sick and then society itself (in terms of economic costs).<br>Not to speak ill of those who are at risk of course.<br><br>But what makes me anxious is how over reactions are getting news time. <br><br>Anyways. <br><br>I'm just happy we live in an age where we get access to treatment which works. No evil spirits, no punishment from the gods or anything like that. Its a virus. And a cure can be found in time and due course.<br><br>

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Nah @eth

We cant do that. We need access to stuff here.

We will get paid anyway.

But overall I'm okay. Honestly I just want 2 weeks to job search

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Glad to hear you're ok @MDT I'm at a stage where I need to limit my intake of various media for mh reasons. Got very preoccupied about it all for a couple of days. Just had an email saying my driving lesson for tomorrow will still go ahead. And hoping my support worker will still come to take me shopping. Need to distract myself I think. Will probably go watch some iview or something.

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