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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Windows (computer) has been doing this all afternoon....

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The Windows Update (this afternoon) took over 1 & 1/2 hours.

Just as well that I wasn't in a hurry to use my computer @Shaz51 @Bunniekins

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Hi @Angels333 How are you?

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Yeah good thanks @Adge . Work was good today, anxiety is always there though.

Xxx

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@CheerBear, thanks for your words. Happy you like my new profile pic. So good to see you too. 🙂

@Zoe7, ox 🙂

@Exoplanet, love to you and your special holiday place. A few hours travel is not too bad, about from here to another surf coast up the road. There are crystal-like mountains there, in the hinterland. But don't want to go travelling for a while now.

Good to hear the rain has made it to you. Here's to it stopping now! 20 years of mostly drought is a long time in a flood plain. It's great that you have experience of both situations. Hoping the best for you.

I think I have an idea about your health issues from the last time I was here, back in the first half of last year. In fact, I was thinking about your attitude to life and death earlier tonight, when standing out in my courtyard looking up at the veiled stars behind the opaque clouds.

Because of my troubling undiagnosed symptoms and depression at the moment, I have been thinking about death a fair bit, afraid of it and a bit panicked about my health. In fact, it's possible some of my symptoms are coming from that panic! But I don't think that's it completely. Getting older, with the natural declines in health, has hit me since I got back from Europe and I've been struggling with it.

But a few days ago I had a conversation with my close friend here about spirituality. I don't know if you have this, but there are times when I am feeling out of control and highly distressed, and I find myself instinctively calling out to someone, who I might identify with as my higher self. It's a part of me that seems almost unconscious and non-verbal, that is wiser than my mortal brain.

Somehow in the past few days, since focussing on it and perhaps surrendering control to it more, I feel something lifted. I did some video tonight, in a good and patient mood with it, a contrast to just a few days ago. Spanish lessons on the mobile app are going great. Better for me than playing spider solitaire. Gratitude app seems a life affirming thing to do. It's less than minute to do it, feels more than worth that in result.

Despite feeling almost like a need a walking stick in case I faint at any moment (especially getting up out of chairs), life/my higher self seems to be nonetheless picking me up over the past couple of days.

We never know what's going to happen in the future, three years, or more or less, is the fate of all of us. Meanwhile, we can do our best to enjoy, love and be with each other. 🙂

@Shaz51, ox

@Adge, thanks again for the meme smiles and giggles. 🙂

Waves and hugs to @Angels333, @Bunniekins, @outlander, @Appleblossom, @Former-Member, @Maggie, and everyone I've mentioned, and to anyone else reading.

Hasta luego (see you later),
Maz

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@Mazarita Dont ever be a stranger Mazzy xxx

@Exoplanet Love to you Exoplanet:). Will send you a message on your thread when I get back. Love peaxxx

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@Mazarita Loving your new pic Hon and great to see you active here again

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