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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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thinking of you @eth 💜💜

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Good morning @outlander @Mazarita @TAB @Adge @Snowie @Zoe7 @Faith-and-Hope @MDT @Exoplanet @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Maggie @TAB @Appleblossom @Former-Member @Sans911 @Shaz51 @Molliex @octavia and anyone else passing here today. Hope it's a peaceful one for all. Haven't seen you lately @Scarecrowe and @Doglover hope you are travelling ok.

My adult child and their family are only a couple of suburbs away from the ACT fires so I've been keeping a close eye out. They have told me they're sick of everyone asking if they're ok, if they have a plan - so I replied I think it's reasonable for your mother to ask. So far they're safe and have a couple of people who will drive them if they need to get out. They have no car, disabilities and 2 small children and a cat. And have said they will not go to the local evacuation centre for reasons I think matter less than staying alive. Nothing I can do about it but sit here very concerned for them.

Still dodging the housing dep't stuff but will ask psychologist and psychiatrist to write reports for me on Wed when I have appointments with both. And ask the chemist to document how much my psych meds are costing me per month. At least that will be a start to the evidence gathering. I know bro and sil are not asking me to move out, but I'm still having a lot of strong feelings and emotion about having to go through the process of getting on the public/social housing list. My last public housing experience was 11 years of one problem after another including drug dealing and domestic violence at my immediate neighbours.

Managed to catch up on some domestics this morning which is good because I have comitments the next 4 days. 1st driving lesson since early December tomorrow morning then water tai chi and a few groceries. Wednesday psychologist, psychiatrist, chemist and live reading at the art gallery (I'm not planning to read at this stage but that could change - my writing has been blocked by borderline depression this last week). Thursday meeting with my coordinator of supports, Friday major grocery shop and water tai chi again.

Then I'm going away on the 11th and will be back after the 21st. Once again I will be away from the computer and will have my notifications turned off except for a weekly digest of comments where I'm tagged. So I won't be responding to tags until after I get back.

Looking forward to this trip immensely - it's my close friend's 60th and about 15 of us are staying at a resort on the north coast for 3 nights. Another close friend who I've known since grade 2 is going to come down and share my room - should be fabulous to see her too. We had no contact for several years due to a misunderstanding (insert long story which includes my mother lying about putting in a missing person report on me and telling me it was my friend who did it) but over the last 3 years we've been yarning on the phone for hours at a time. She's also a writer and inspires me and boosts my confidence about my writing.

Take care all xx

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also have rels in Canberra @eth , they uber organised and have cars though

I was in govt housing for 7 ish years, dont know how I survived, had police on speed dial and endless complaints lodged about neighbours, never everything they did, just when couldnt see another option

Perhaps when asking for letters, make a point of trying to get stand alone accomadation, so less/no houso neighbours

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Hey @TAB psychologist said she will state my need to be in 'low density' housing but I will mention 'stand alone' to her as well, thanks.

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okay well big difference, even if neighbours are still bad, a lot more space and no common entrances and no having every move being seen and heard by people who are unhinged @eth

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Hey everyone.

I just got a library survey (via email) - it asked me to rate the library service, in my local area.

I gave them a very good rating - although I've not use any library in ages (maybe over 1 year?).

So they may have been taken over by aliens, for all I know....

Adge

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Ha, I have 'earned' $100 over last year from surveys @Adge lol

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Good one @TAB You sound better at making it work for you.

I've never been paid any $$ for doing a survey - they just take a lot of my time, for free.

Which is why I mostly ignore surveys, & don't do them very often.

Adge

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Did 2 that were guaranteed $50 each @Adge . One that put me in draw for $50 haha not heard back , plus now doing IGA checkout draw thing get in draw for $5k every week if enter details on site

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Oh the IGA survey, I forgot to do that one @TAB Thanks for reminding me....

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