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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good Morning @eth

and @Meowmy @octavia @Adge @Bimby2 @frog @saturnzoon @Ant7 @TAB @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @Molliex @Faith-and-Hope @outlander @Zoe7 @Maggie @greenpea @Gazza75 @Doglover @Exoplanet @Sophia1 @boot @Queenie @Scarecrowe @Hamsolo01 @SleepyDad @CheerBear @utopia @oceangirl @Sherry @Snowie @Sans911 @eudemonism @simontemplar @GieEuphoria @JosRapp @cutiepiekitty @Maxi7 @LadyCaroline

Plus any other great person that joins this great discussion

I hope you all have a nice day or at least one that is better than it could have been.

I have work to do on a car to fit an aftermarket radion AMp etc to without wiring schematics and half the original gear missing. looking forward to the challenge BMW do weird things with their radios.

I am on my 2nd coffee many more to come.

Please all be kind to yourself and accept a cuddle from me.

I will have a look thru the frorums tommorow and comment

Maxi7

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Hey @Maxi7 hope you manage to work it out - does sound like a challenge. I wouldn't even know where to start!

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Hearing you @octavia and very much hoping today is a better day for you. I support you about reaching out to others in your offline life, and also about deciding with your husband where to draw the line. You might find the SANE chat line at the top right of the page good to talk to to get some ideas about where to turn to next, or strategies to protect your own well-being. I can hear what a toll it's all taking on you. Take care today won't you.

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Morning all 👋 and thanks for the shout outs @eth and @Maxi7.

Good luck with the car Maxi! You lost me at amp 😉

Hope this morning has started well for you eth and all ❤

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Hey @CheerBear really peaceful early start here after another frustratingly broken night for no apparent reason. After the week I had and a good workout in the pool yesterday I had expected my exhaustion to see me get a better sleep but no such luck.

How's your morning going? What do you have on today? Hallowe'en sounded like such fun for your mob.

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That sucks with the sleep @eth 😏 Was it warm where you are last night? The heat often hits my already wonky sleep. Pool sounds awesome!

Halloween was heaps of fun here 🙂 I have been so against it but am glad we joined in this year. Our little gathering at our place after it with friends and kids was also fab.

Morning is going slowly which is nice thanks. Slow day ahead too (also good!). It's strange weather today, warm and wet. Not much we can do in that.

How's your day looking?

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@CheerBear not too warm, cooled down nicely overnight, so it wasn't that. This week just 2 of the things were having my first driving lesson tues and a long meeting yesterday with my peer mentor and new coordinator of supports. So that's 3 areas where I keep jotting down more details that I remember as they come up. Plus had to reschedule my driving lesson plan as a result of my psychologist's advice, and try to contact manager of current CoS organisation to cancel my service agreement. And monday spent a couple of hours with my bridge friend. Felt quite brain bamboozled by the end of yesterday. Also had psychologist, podiatrist, and thank goodness made it to water tai chi twice - the saving grace. And did a bbq for the household on thurs night.

So today I'm doing my best to put all of that to rest and just go with the flow and take it as it comes. Nice to hear you will be having a quiet one for a change too. Hope it stays that way for both of us!

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Far out @eth, I felt frazzled just trying to get my head around all of that. It's no wonder you had trouble sleeping 🙁 Really glad you have a chance to maybe go a bit slower and quieter one today ❤

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Howdy @eth thanks for the shout out,what's happening

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Hi @Bill16 have kicked off the Saturday Soiree - all welcome!! thread if you want to join in over there. No plans for today, need a day of rest after the week I had (see post above). How's today looking for you?

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