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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hi @CheerBear, thanks so much for dropping off flowers here. I was thinking of you again today when I was walking from my friend's place around the back streets to the bus stop. There was that patch of green grass on a rise, where the sky is wide and the sun shines bright. I have no idea why I think of you when I wander past that spot, but it's nice to find a little CB in my real life days. Hope the days have been treating you okay lately.

Hi Niqua, I breathe a sigh of relief hearing that the signs have been taken down, even though I know it's not foolproof either, from what you've said before. Glad you had a visitor! Did you get to talk to him much? Sounds reasonable, what you have decided about your trip. It's fun making plans, only to change them when a better idea arises. Cool sounds pretty desirable. You are right about my friend. But she is also facing big physical and mental challenges. I think she's doing okay, putting head in sand for a while to calm down, then coming back up and getting with it again. We went out and did a 'drive by' inspection of a place today and she has two proper inspections booked in now for next week. Thanks for encouraging my rubber duckies. I'm hoping to get them dancing again tomorrow. Love to you. @Former-Member

Hi @Faith-and-Hope, @outlander hope the rest of the evening treats you and everyone well.

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Huge warm fuzzies @Mazarita 🙂 Thank you. I have a little Maz in my morning birds and in the colours in the garden now, both which make me smile heaps.

Hope your evening goes well too


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Good morning, Niqua. Sending best wishes for your trip! See you when you get back. Lots of love. @Former-Member

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Good morning @Mazarita ☺ Seeing you about and wanted to say hi. Hope the day has good in it for you 💗

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Quick hi everybody ..... gonna get moving now .....

☕️💕

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Hi @Faith-and-Hope, @CheerBear, hope there's good in your days too.

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10pm on a Saturday. 11pm in other parts of the east coast. Earlier in other parts of Australia. What a big place we live in!

Sometimes it amazes me, the net's capacity to bring people together from far flung locations. The digital revolution is the biggest change I've seen in my lifetime. It's been a learning experience for me, in a way that's different for later generations. I've been on computers since 1981. But I was 19 that year, my first experience of a computer. These days very young children are operating technology, it almost happens simultaneous to learning to walk. My big technological high when I was a child was getting a second hand box brownie camera given to me when I was about 8. A fond memory.

The other thing that shows my vintage is that my mother and I lived for long periods of time in the 60s and early 70s without a telephone in our home (she was effectively a single mum for long periods of time during my childhood, my dad came and went). We used to have to walk to phone boxes on the corner to make calls. It was a different kind of world without the immediacy of a mobile. In some ways it was much freer not being 'tethered' to a mobile phone. But also far less convenient and, in some ways, socially isolating. And yet, when people got together, their attention was more focussed on each other and they seemed more 'there' in the present place and time. I say this, even though I now regularly have 'phone parties' with my friend around the corner and C. That means we're all round the same table on our devices, barely speaking or looking at each other. Fortunately this doesn't go on all night. I do get bored of it sometimes.

I think about technology because I use it a lot, too much time on this here desktop especially.

Today, however, I also got out for a walk to vote in the state election. The candidate I voted for has no hope in this electorate and my least favourite candidate is probably going to win. Them's the breaks. Politics seriously depresses me and I avoid it to a fair extent for my own mental health. So I think I'll change subjects.

Yes, I got a walk, pat on the back. And overall it's been a pretty good day.

Sleep well if you're sleeping. Hi if you're around when I'm posting. And general well wishes to anyone else reading this, another long rave.

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Good morning @Mazarita ☺

Reading your post with my coffee this morning after missing my bird wake up today. I enjoy thinking about technology and how far it has come also, especially with my littles who have no idea what life without devices and gadgets would be like.

I grew up with cassettes that I put sticky tape over to record on, staying up late at night in bed to record my favourite songs from the top 40 countdown on radio. A lot of my early childhood was spent lying on the floor listening to records with giant headphones from my Dad's pride and joy stereo. I remember later on getting a stereo with a CD player in it as a birthday present one year and it's a memory that has and will stay for a long time. I still have my first CD in a box of special somethings 😊

We were out last week looking for a phone (as mine saw the end of it's life and I flipped out) and my littlest asked lots of questions about what "those things do". They were looking at corded phones with the big button dial pad 😉

It's hard to imagine life without mobiles with answers to almost everything at our finger tips, and the ability to connect with others without being at home (or at a phone booth). I had a Google to find a box brownie camera - wow!

I really enjoyed reading your post this morning. Hope the day has something that feels good in store for you ❤

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One of my baby dragons once asked what those big black CD’s we used to have were called ..... 😆

Good morning @Mazarita @CheerBear ..... anyone else around .....

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Haha @Faith-and-Hope! There's a YouTube channel thing (I'm sure mine could tell me the right word for it) called Kids React: Technology. It's pretty funny 🙂
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