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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Adge Lots of love for you and your brother Adge. I cannot imagine how hard this is for you. Love peaxxx

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Ok @eth just wasn't quite sure that's all . Now i know. ..

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Thanks for your thoughts @Angels333 @Bunniekins @eth @saturnzoon

Thanks everyone, sorry if I can't get all the tags right.

Apparently it's quite hard to gain admission to the burns unit - you have to get a clearance, then be disinfected, then wear a special gown.

That's because of risk of spreading infections.

My brother is on life-support, with feeding & breathing.

He was unable to respond, when someone held his hand yesterday - although perhaps he was aware of who it was.

Yes, it's very hard.

I am one person who my brother would be very glad to see - if or when he becomes aware.

He has always greeted me with joy - I think because he knows that I am understanding, & that I don't judge him.

Kind thoughts to you all.

Adge

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@Adge Oh Adge love, love,love coming your way and your brother's. I will say a prayer for him and you this morning.peaxxx

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A big Hi and good morning to @Mazarita @Adge @eudemonism @cutiepiekitty @Angels333 @eth 🙂 sorry I have been silent on this thread for awhile just been hard coping with more than one thread daily. I am sure many of you would know what I mean. I do keep an eye on what is happening even if I dont post though and wish all of the Long Ravers well. Am still going for my walks with beautiful neighbour and support workers and mental health nurse in a constant battle of the buldge :p.

Have a great day everyone may it be full of love and kindness for all. Love peaxx

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Hi @Bunniekins lovely to wake up to your message xx

I'm going for a walk today, but it's at the gym. I'm going to go with son 2 at 10am, then I have DBT therapy from 12.30 to 3.30. I'm anxious about DBT I haven't been coping and I worry constantly about being admitted to hospital. My life is actually pretty good and filled with joy most days, I just have this awful SH impulsive actions happening quite frequently. I admit it's out of control but I'm really enjoying work and cooking and being around my family. So it's a hard situation. I really pray today that the DBT psychologists can come up with a plan for me to get more support for my problematic behavior (SH) without just suggesting hospital. Whether it's seeing my Psychiatrist weekly, I'm not sure..

Sorry @Bunniekins that was a bit of a long rave!

Hi @Adge How have you been going with everything happening with your brother? Are you being kind to yourself?

@eudemonism @cutiepiekitty @Zoe7 @Shaz51 @Maggie @Molliex @MDT @eth @outlander and all the other ravers, sending you warm wishes today and I hope you all have a moment of joy in you day. Sending hugs (((💕💕)))

Love Angels333

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@Angels333 Hi Angels333 I hope you have a good day and don't worry I know what you mean about sh. I find I can be going along steadily and then bam! something triggers it off and I am in the depths of despair and thinking all kinds of dark thoughts. Is quiet weird.

I hope you DBT goes well for you and your time with son 2 is fun as I am sure it will be. Have a great day. Love peaxxx

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Morning @Angels333. You have something that many people don't have, and that's a desire to change and an awareness that SH isn't good. Have faith in yourself, you're so much stronger than you think.

I hope it goes well, I'll be thinking of you :ok_hand:🌻💕

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Goodluck with it all today @Angels333 I hope you get some help with your SH urges and DBT goes oky. Let us know how it goes and if you get a plan in place

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Good morning @Adge @Bunniekins @Angels333 @Zoe7 @Molliex @MDT @eudemonism and anyone else around here today. Sending my best wishes to You all and especially strong vibes to @Adge and @Angels333 . Hoping you both have good news today. And hoping today is one of the better ones for all who pass by here today.

This morning I'm going to the womens group of the local disability alliance for the first time. By myself and using a Shebah ride there and back. Another fairly major step on the road to independence and hopefully making friends. I've already had some really nice contact from 2 of the women involved and I know at least 1 of them will be there. She texted me at 7 am to see if I was coming! The theme today is health and wellbeing so may pick up some good tips and hopefully contribute to the discussion.

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