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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hello @outlander, @eth, @Former-Member, @CheerBear

Hello @Mazarita, saw the Gp yesterday and have to see another specialist as lots of my blood results are way tooo high

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Hi @Shaz51, scottish sister, hugs. Hope there's some good news for you soon.

Hi @eth, @Former-Member, @CheerBear and everyone, good morning. How are you this new day?

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Good morning @Mazarita @Shaz51 and all around here today.

Hope it's going well for you so far @Mazarita and you're starting to feel a bit better.

Sorry to hear about your blood test results @Shaz51.

Clumsy me just dropped one of my dentures and cracked the rear corner off it. Hoping it doesn't cause too much trouble as there's a 6-12 month waiting list for denture work at the public dentist which I'm already on. If it does I'll have to bite the bullet and see a private dentist (pun intended!). I also hope it can be repaired and I don't have to pay for a whole new plate. Bugger bugger bugger.

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Snap! @Mazarita

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Oh, @eth, what a big nuisance! Also uncomfortable while having to wait. That's a terrible waiting time. Do they have emergency appointments? I have one coming up for my two broken back teeth next week (finally!)

I am starting to feel a bit better, though I've been awake since about 3am. Will get some more sleep in before waking properly. I think I may be going to friend's place today to help a bit more with the flat search. Just being there seems to help her find more motivation for it. I may go along with her to view some places too.

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@Mazarita you've waited months to have those teeth attended to haven't you? Glad to hear you're starting to feel better. Sleep well and I hope it goes ok with your friend and she finds somewhere soon. How much longer does she have in the current place? The kidults have recently relocated and it took up til their last week to get approved for another place. Such pressure. I feel so lucky that things worked out the way they did for me. I wouldn't handle that pressure, and wouldn't manage by myself these days.

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I would find it very hard to manage by myself too, @eth. Even the searching for a place, which I am good at on the net, would be difficult for inspections because I don't drive or have a car. My friend really needs a professional advocate to help her get public housing. She has severe mobility issues, even though she already pushes through a lot of pain to do as much as she can.

I've been on the waiting list to have fillings on various teeth for over a year. During that time three back teeth have broken. The latest was two at once. They might not have been so fragile if they'd been filled in time. I rang for an emergency appointment about a month ago when the latest breakage happened. This was the earliest appointment i could get. It's a bit of a sad account but I just can't afford private dentisty.

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@Mazarita I can't afford it out of my pension either @Mazarita but still have a small amount of savings from the last 4 years of not going anywhere in Darwin, thank goodness. I had a similar situation to you with teeth until the last of them were removed 3 years ago. Several of them were broken in a dv event. It's outrageous how long they make us wait and suffer in the public system.

I'm wondering if your friend's Dr could help with the public housing application. Or someone like CatholicCare - they once helped me do it and also helped get on the priority list. If the lease is expiring and she is having trouble finding something she would probably qualify currently for it. AngliCare is good too. It might also be worth enquiring if Disability Advocates could help - you could google them to find out who it is where you are, I believe they are in every state.

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@eth, friend has said no to that kind of assistance when I suggested it. She has recently contacted housing dept in this state with doctor support letter. This resulted in her being put back on the high priority list. But they said there are so many on it, the wait is still probably years. She's already been up and down in priority on the list for at least 12 years. Anyway, here we are, and she still has until early Jan to leave. But really wants to be out by mid december. It may be impossible to do much over xmas.

I have to sign off. I'm on mobile because my desktop has just gone haywire and I had to switch it off. Hence the delay in getting this post to you. Need to research computer problem now. C'est la vie. Hope we catch each other in a snap moment again soon. ox

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Good Morning Mazy @Mazarita 🙂

Good luck helping your friend find a place

Good luck with your tests @Shaz51

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