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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Appleblossom

Yes im hoping itll help me feel not so alone.

Ive always struggled to meet people & make friends cause i feel i have so little. I mean no family no husband no set career etc. Just embarasses me being around people thats all.

No1 would know my past to look at me tho.im attractive hold my age very well & am relatively fit looking. I always shock psychologists. They always say u present so well u would never suspect ur past at all.

Our past stays with us tho somewhere in our mind.

Yrs ago i started i wrote songs & heard the piano in my head. I was way to unwell & wasnt on right meds etc so im hoping now that im stable that i can properly learn piano & possibly reconnect with the songs i wrote.

In Melb i had a good singing teacher that got me back training correctly. Soon after arriving here i decided to research what were the best books to learn piano from. Its cheaper to buy the books & teach urself if u already read music. So thats what im doing. Been going for 3mnths now well. Id like to b able to play well for when im older as something else to do. Its all about hobbies as u get older.im also thinking about learning ballroom dancing here at some point. It might help me get out also. Ive been a hermit for most of my life. So its my greatest challenge getting outside & being with people. Hopefully sharing some of these challenges will help me

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Hi @Former-Member it was lovely to read your story. I'm glad you're happy in t'ville. I can picture you learning the piano, that's fantastic!!

Good evening to @Appleblossom @TAB @Meowmy @Bunniekins @eth @Zoe7 @Faith_Hope_Love I'm feeling really low atm I see my Psychiatrist on Wednesday I know he's going to suggest hospital but I can't afford to miss out on income from work. Feeling really stuck, atm.

Love Angels333

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@Angels333

Gosh i hope u can avoid hosp.

Try to look at all options.

I dont know ur situation but i do know that stuck feeling. It is going to pass at some point tho.

I felt very trapped & stuck when they were trying different medications. Like i was sitting waiting for the next side effect.

As i said it will pass & u will b free again at some point. Stay in touch with people u resonate with

Take care

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Thanks @Former-Member I hope you can get into a good DBT group with good people. I do DBT on Thursdays. I will flatly refuse hospital unless he schedules me.

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@Former-Member

You have some great plans. I totally agree about active ageing. Piano is great company and can open up different aspects of music when we are all in different stages of health.

@Angels333

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@Angels333 hope you feel better soon.

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Yeah im bpd so they say after 4 other diagnosis.

Not sure they can make u go to hosp without ur consent.

Dont know about that

They tricked me yrs ago & got me signing something

Then i just wanted to duck home & b with my cat for a bit they just were too busy to talk to so i caught a cab home & when i was at home police turned up.

I hadnt done anything wrong like to hurt anyone.

Gave me a really big scare tho

Ill never sign anything again.

There were some pretty nasty nurses in there.

U will get thru this somehow. Way better & easier to heal outside hosp no matter whats wrong with u

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Hey @Former-Member I'm sorry you were tricked. I'm so tired of it all today, I think I've been working myself up and my Psychiatrist will be fine.

I don't think I can be forced into hospital unless I'm a real danger to myself or others.

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Hi @Angels333 sending you good vibes for your appointment today 💕

I'm seeing my GP today - he also wants me to go to hospital, but I'm hoping to avoid it as well. I think we can have a talk about other, more suitable options.

@Former-Member that sounds like a really awful experience. You're so incredibly strong. Happy piano playing 🎶🎹

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Yeah & so far its pretty cheap. I researched which books to learn from & bought all 3. I should get thru these books by yrs end without a teacher & then ill buy the next level up & c how far i get thru the next 3. Once i gets too hard ill get a teacher but i really need to earn more $ to afford a teacher.

+ i dont want it to stress me out too much. Need to pick the right teacher too. Thats going to b a journey trying out a few i think.

Dont want to end up with someone that triggers me off.

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