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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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That all sounds really productive @Angels333 Goodluck with it all tomorrow. Sleep well Hon... goodnight

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Hi @Bunniekins I made it! She seems ok. The time went so uick though. We have settled on $10 a time for now, but she said that we can put that lower if needed. AND today I have sent a query to someone to ask for a price for taking some of my junk to the tip, so I think that is a move ahead too. When I was coming home the train staff said I looked at least 10 years oyounger coming home than going, so I guess I looked worse than I thought and it helped. Even though waiting for the train and nearly halfway home I just had music on headphones and just concentrated on the words of that to settle.

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Hi Ravers @cutiepiekitty @Zoe7 @Doglover @Bunniekins @eth @Owlunar @Adge @outlander @Appleblossom

I'm really struggling today with SH thoughts, it's just constant. I'm managing to keep distracting but the day is long, I can't wait to curl up and go back to bed tonight....

@Doglover How are you going? What's the earliest re. Admission dates, do you have a date yet? Have you confirmed that you're on the waiting list? Sorry for the questions it's just that I've been thinking about you...

@cutiepiekitty I'm really glad for you that your psychologist session went well. How long until the next one?

Wishing everyone a great day today

Love Angels333

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hI @Angels333 Next session in 2 weeks

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Hi @Angels333

I remember when my days felt like that - I would wake up and dread the day ahead and although I didn't have any SH or SI - luckily - I had to push my way through every inch of the day - so yes - I hear you

And I could hardly wait to go to bed too - it was the high point of my day - and yet even then I knew I would wake up to more of the same

What can I offer you - to tell you that things will improve - I guess you have to work through your stuff - so easy for me to say - so hard for you to do

Time - a lot of it - passed - and I gradually found a different life after a disaster - I would like to imagine that a different life is there for everyone when the storm is over - or maybe the old life is better - I can't tell

But long days of pain are something to dread I am sure - and at the end of it your bed and hopefully sleep.

Are all your days like this Angel? Did it all start or come back when something changed in your life? I do know how hard it can be.

Hearing you

Dec

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Hi @Zoe7 @Doglover @Meowmy @Maggie thanks for the well wishes yesterday. The reading I did went well - 2 shortish poems about 2 different events which I've had grief about. That was the theme as it's grief awareness month in August. But it got pretty heavy going at times with around 2 dozen people reading their writing on the topic. Quiet a few of the readers got really choked up doing it (understandably) but all were really brave and kept going. Then we gathered at a nearby cafe which was nice and a bit of debriefing. I could only stay 15 min as my support worker had to finish for the day. I'm sure I wasn't the only one had a bit of a cry before going to the cafe. Even my support worker did.

I have quite a few pages to catch up on here so Hi to everyone @Owlunar @cutiepiekitty @Angels333 and anyone else who's around tonight. Not sure I'll respond to all tonight as I've been exhausted all afternoon since having a panic attack this morning. There was a guy wildly abusing everyone who walked past him - drunk or MH or both probably. I freaked out but managed to cross the road before I got to where he was - but he still yelled abuse. Racing heart, shaking hands - the whole shebang. Saw my psychologist just after that happened and had a session with her about that sort of reaction, how I handled it, etc. She described it as being 'flooded' (brain and body chemistry during panic) and that sounds spot on to me. I've been wanting to find a different word than always saying 'triggered'.

Will catch up tomorrow morning probably.

Have a quiet and restful night all. Lots of people I should tag but I'm too tired.

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Hey @Owlunar I think about 50% of my days are a struggle, so I do have my good days. Today is a shocker, I acted out on my SH urges and feel very mentally unwell. But tomorrow I could feel fine.

I've been like this for 4 years now after some triggering EMDR therapy went horribly wrong. I have borderline personality disorder PTSD and Major depression. I just had a change of meds in hospital but the new one's obviously not working.

Thanks for your understanding it really means so much and I hear your advice that it gets better as I've been through times of being well before. I just have to get myself back there. I should be using my DBT skills more....

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Hi @Appleblossom @outlander @MDT @Macca00 @Sans911 thanks for the tags. Will get back to you tomorrow. See above post for details. Just passing through and realizing I'm too wiped out for this tonight. Take care all.

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Sending hugs @eth (((💙💙💙)))

Love Angels333

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@eth Well done for yesterday. Sorry about the other experience. Flooded sounds like a really good use of words for a very difficult situation. Rest well tonight.💜

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