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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Way to go on getting through today and tonight @Angels333 That is a big achievement with how anxious you were feeling

Teaching is a tough job but I do like it - wouldn't be doing it otherwise I suppose. Last year I seriously considered not going back but money more than anything meant I had to - now I am glad I did - it has certainly had it's ups and downs (and so have I) but it is still a job I love and I love the school I am at. It doesn't look promising that I will be able to stay at this school next year as there have been a lot of people wanting to transfer in - but while there is hope I will cling onto it for now.

Are you working again tomorrow?

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Hi everyone @Bunniekins @eth @Meowmy

I was going to meet a vegan lady (online dating) - we have exchanged a few messages, but haven't met yet.

She says that her vegan friends condemn the keeping of any animal (in her case a dog), as a pet – they say that a pet animal has no freedom, so no animal should ever be kept as a pet.

I have never come across such strong (black & white) vegan views – It came as quite a shock to hear that.

That probably means that we’re not compatible, another dead-end.

Adge

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@Adge Hey Adge, hope you get suitable dates soon. It is great you are meeting new people. I know someone, a friend of a friend, he talks to a few ladies on online dating as friends. They occasionally meet in person. It is interesting social setting. Hope you enjoy it. Very well done, to be positive and meeting new people.

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Thanks @Meowmy Yes it is a good social outlet, or opportunity.

It's more difficult, sometimes anxiety-provoking - simply because of never having met before (in a group, etc).

Traditionally (or in the past), people met during some group activity - then went out for a Date.

So text-messaging (or emailing) someone whom I've never met, is very different - before hoping to meet in person.

At that stage, people often opt-out (cut contact), before ever actually getting to meet them in person.

Adge

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Hi @Zoe7 No I'm not working tomorrow. My shifts are Tuesday's and Saturday's. Tomorrow I have an appointment with my Psychiatrist, I can go over all the SI thoughts I have been struggling with. I know it's only 2 days work but I can't handle more than that.

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Hi @Angels333 ,

I'm so glad you are feeling better re SH urges and that u had a helpful dbt session with psych, that's rly good and I'm rly glad to hear.

Was today ur first day back at work, after 3 months from memory? How did it go? I hope it wasn't too challenging for u and went as smoothly as possible.

I've got plenty of appointments this week. Had psychologist ystrday, pdoc today which was rly tough bcozim not in a good way and we know I'm going to b admitted but trying to hold out until private health insurance kicks in, also saw OT today. Got group therapy on Friday and have to make apptment this week with gp for mhcp review.I don't know that any of these appointments are actually helping me, other than to help fill in the days which I find very difficult to do when I don't have appointments, and even sometimes when I do. Often the day looms large ahead of me and I just don't know what to do with myself. So in that way I am glad for the appointments.

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Well I'll sign off for now, but I rly hope ur day at work went rly well for u Angel.

Take care xx

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💜 @Bunniekins , ur a sweetheart!

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@Adge Hi Adge give it a go. Vegans are another breed to vegetarians I find. If it works out between you both she will probably feel she will be able to change your views on the subject. Just have fun and try not to worry about something that hasn't happened yet :)xx

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Good morning everyone. @Bunniekins @Adge @Meowmy @Zoe7 @eth @Appleblossom @Adge

I hope you all are having a good morning,.

I'm up super early to do some ironing for my husband, I don't really mind as it's peaceful and quiet. SH thoughts are still persisting but are less stressful than on the weekend and last week, I see my Psychiatrist today, I'm really hoping he renews my prn script sometimes he can be reluctant to give me prn but I know it works for me.

@Doglover Yes it's been about 3 months off, four weeks of those I was in hospital. I'm sorry to hear you're going through a tough time re: MH. I completely understand how tough it is waiting for the private insurance to kick in, I did that a few years ago and I remember how hard it was. Wow! You really do have a full week of appointments! I'm hoping they can keep you safe until you go into hospital. How many more weeks do you have to wait?

I send you all blessings for today, keep safe love Angels333 xxxx

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Goodluck with your appointment today @Angels333 I hope he helps you out with the script and if he doesn't then he helps you find other strategies to del with your anxiety.

Goodmorning @Bunniekins @Doglover @Adge and others passing by here

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