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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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A break from misery and depression seem like a good idea to me

@Meowmy

Hi @Adge

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@Meowmy @eth @Bunniekins @Appleblossom Still struggling but sending you all love

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@Adge Hi Finch and good morning I hope you are asleep all snuggled up in your colourful jumper :). Lack of sleep is a terrible thing I know that only to well. Even after sleeping lil pea is tired .... I blame alot on medication that I am on as my diet these days is very healthy. I exercise I am tired, I don't I am tired .... cannot win.

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@Zoe7 Hi Zoe7 I know how hard it is for you to post outisde anc when you are struggling so to see you hear warms my heart 🙂 Love your peaxxxx

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@Meowmy Hi Meowmy that is a busy evening that you have had. Well done on the walk and coffee and haircut as a reward. Will you go swimming again this weekend?

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Hi and good morning to @Mazarita @Zoe7 @Appleblossom @TAB @Shaz51 @CheerBear @Exoplanet @Meowmy @BryanaCamp @eth @Adge @Angels333 @saturnzoon @Sophia1 (always thinking of you x) and all who pass by this crisp morning. Next week will be insane as the temps will be dropping to 5 degrees where I live :D. So pea will have to rug up for her walks am super looking forward to that. Busy day today have son2 going out with carer than being picked up by ex. He is a lovely mean he always brings me flowers :D. The pea loves flowers in fact while we were married he never bought me any ever but now we are divorced he brings them everytime he visits lol .... explain that one to me lol. He did buy me a motor bike though when we were married so I cannot complain then he sold it on me to buy himself another motorbike :o!!!!! Anyway .... that is the past and the present is that he is spoiling the pea his gf would not be impressed hehehehehehe!!!! Love to everyone greenpeaxxxx

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Thinking of you @saturnzoon ... one step at a time

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Thinking of you @saturnzoon ...one step at a time

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Thinking of you @saturnzoon ...one step at a time

Sorry for the repeat posts. Having trouble with forum gremlins - said error then posted multiple times

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morning @Bunniekins hope you enjoy your flowers from your ex - that sounds like the highest funcitoning ex-relationship I've ever heard of, well done you, you must be very diplomatic! Hope you have a chance today for some 'me time' with your son out visiting. 5deg sounds mighty cold, you'd a brave walker to go out in that. my dinner last night went well, the people were really lovely - I'd be happy to catch up with them again - and I think I managed to pass as normal.

hi @Meowmy I'm so glad you were able to go out and enjoy a walk & coffee & haircut (I dread getting my hair cut & am putting it off as I can't handle all the questions so I think you're very brave) and got a little breather from you suffering. I hope the sun is shining for you today and you are feeling ok.

hi @TAB BC to ET..well done for working so hard all week, and wow working the weekend that's amazing. I agree with GP that I'd try not to worry about the workplace politics & other things, I'm sure everything will turn out fine & I'm sure you're a very valued employee as you work so hard. If you're worried it's probably just your mind ruminating or coming up with negative things, mine does that all the time & it feels yuck & it very distorted/innacurate compared to reality. Hope you're travelling well

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