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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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How was the weekend @Mazarita @Faith-and-Hope ??

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Awesome you had a great time and learned things too, @eth. I bet the chill was bracing at times!

It was @Faith-and-Hope and @Shaz51's birthday party here yesterday, went all day and night, a moment in forum history!

Aside from that, yesterday started off in a depressed slump for me with too much sleeping, as I have been doing lately. Then I roused myself to get out on the beach. Beautiful day. Then friend rang while I was on the beach so ended up at her place in the afternoon and stayed for dinner. Mood gradually improved over day and was in pretty good form by evening.

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Great the beach @Mazarita That always helps. Yes it was much colder there than in town, but I had a puffer jacket, hoodie and jumper and beanie and longjohns!!! And the fires to keep warm by.

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My weekend has been relatively calm @eth ..... felt the love here today with an awesome birthday party shared with Shaz51 ....

Glad you had a good time away .... sounds amazing ..... and I love the dusk and dawn fire pit ... 😊

Glad ypu had had a good pick-me-up sorta day too @Mazarita 💕

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Happy birthday @Faith-and-Hope and many happy returns 🙂

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Thanks @eth.... 🤗 .... calling it my birthday week .....

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How was your day off the forum, @Faith-and-Hope? Hope you enjoyed some quality moments with family too.

@eth, ah yes, puffer jackets, like wearing a little doona.

It was probably more my friend's company that picked me up than anything. She is in a lot of physical pain at the moment and very down but she is always good company to me.

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Scrolling through threads trying to catch up a bit @Mazarita @Faith-and-Hope. Any news I should be aware of?

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In the wake of WH's ocpd dx .... and with perfectionism having been raised as an issue with S2 ..... and knowing (now) that it's an issue with some of the other kids too, I raised the question about the difference between drive for perfection and pursuit of excellence at the lunch table. It was good to bandy them about a bit, and have the kids think about it.

Moreso, S2 is reeling, and very nervous about CBT starting tomorrow, so my point was to engage them all in discussion and enquiry about something that us going to be readied in his sessions to help show him it's a learning journey, and these things can be brought out and put on the table in a non-threatening way ...... and how it's not just him. It's familial for us, that's pretty clear, so we might as well get comfortable about it.

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@eth, I can only really remember The Shaz and F&H Birthday Bash! But I don't read everything these days. There's a lot of people on the site now, I can't really keep up. Have you had any sleep tonight?

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