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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Hope it's peaceful at your parents' place @Zoe7 .

I need to cull a few things in the garden and will also sort out some winter seeds and get them planted in pots to transplant later .... maybe .....

Having a slow start and enjoying it. I haven't been quite so hypervigilant since my sister was here.

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@eth Happy Easter eth!! yes son2 is being an angel atm. I think taking him for hour walks really helps. I have nothing on today :o. I might tackle my triffids in my garden .... I have been saying that for weeks .... really need my neighbour back she is a gardener and would inspire me . What have you got on?

@Zoe7 I hope the lunch goes well and the 5!!!! puppies behave themselves. I also hope they don't talk horse racing

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Happy times to you too @Bunniekins . I've posted above about maybes for today. It's a free day at home ahead of a few days in a row when I go out.

It's nice to have occasional days with no plans at all isn't it.

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oh @Bunniekins They will talk horse racing - that is pretty much a given in my family. That is when it is great having Toby there to keep me semi-sane!

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Happy Easter @Bunniekins

Good morning everyone.

Adge

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awwwwwwwwww my super @Bunniekins

and I am Glad too that you are walking on the weekend and that you have your son2 with you

have a good lunch @Zoe7 xx

hello @Adge , @eth , @CheerBear

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heyyy my super @Bunniekins

I have a question my darling if that is ok , our D1 has brought us plane tickets to go to darwin for a week , but I amm super worried leaving my mum for a week

@Mazarita, @Adge , @Zoe7 , @eth

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@Shaz51 You have been looking forward to this trip for a while and it would be a real shame if you didn't go. I know your Mum is not well but you also need a break my sister. Put things in place so she is cared for while you are away and enjoy your holiday - not only do you need it but your deserve it.

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i will my sister @Zoe7 , just having little worries about it xx

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Those worries are natural @Shaz51 because you have been such a beacon for your Mum - but you need this holiday and as hard as it is your mum will have to do without you for a week. There are plenty of supports both in place already and available to you so use them my sister and enjoy your holiday.

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