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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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awww @Bunniekins You are a sweetheart. I think we all are integral parts in making up this community. We all bring our own lives and experiences to others here and sharing those help to make others feel less alone. But I do really appreciate your kind words.

It really has been a busy couple of months for me but I couldn't have done that without the support both here and irl - so grateful for everyone that has helped me along the way - and you are one of those people little pea

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Goodnight @TAB Hope you sleep well for the couple of hours you can.

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@Zoe7 :). Is Cat in? Cats are so funny they really have their own mind and do their own thing compared to dogs. Rabbits are a bit the same the only way I can bribe my rabbit to behave himself is either with his favourite cranberry treats.or distract with his favourite chew stick.

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Yes Cat is in and has taken herself off to her bedroom - snuggled up on her favourite bed now @Bunniekins Cats certainly do their own think sounds like bunny does the same. I get cuddles from Cat when it is feeding time - occasionally when the heater is on and she is getting warm too. She does come to greet me when I get home and doesn't worry about Toby then - so they get pats together - usually one on one side and the other on the other side - it is a lovely welcome home.

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@Zoe7 Awww that is so sweet your animals are obviously adored and love you right back:). I love animals although our bunny will be our last and I have decided to give to our favourite animal sanctuary instead. Having an animal is so much responsibility .... I say this now but watch what I do when it happens lol.

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I couldn't imagine life without my fur babies @Bunniekins but know there will come a day that I don't have them - absolutely not looking forward to such a time though - just enjoying every day that I have them. They are a lot of responsibility but they are also what gets me out of bed everyday and everything I want when I come home - so precious and so loved ...and so loving in return. I bet bunny feels the love from you as well

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@Zoe7 Yes bunny is now sitting by my feet. When I get up in the morning he has a few sultanas and then his favourite piece of banana. He runs around my feet (I am sure one day he will trip me over lol :D) in excitement of his forthcoming goody.

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That is so cute @Bunniekins They do know where their food is coming from

I thought about getting a bunny myself but I don't think my babies would like it - Toby certainly wouldn't deal with sharing the love - he really is a jealous little bugger when the attention is not on him. He doesn't like me giving Cat cuddles unless he can get one too - such a spoilt little puppy dog

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Time for this little Zoe to head back to bed @Bunniekins It has been so lovely catching up with you Hon. Hope you get some more sleep in too. Chat soon

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@Zoe7 yes bunnies, cats and dogs not a good mix. Bunnies get so easily stressed and stress can k1ll them apparently. They can also chew up your house lol. So need constant destraction lol. Plus you really have to keep them inside because of myxomatosis from mozzies and they get super lonely stuck in a hutch by themsleves at the end of the garden. They are a very misunderstood animal I think.

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