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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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thanks @Bunniekins after this course im going to take a break though and get on top o over things first 🙂

how are you going? feels like ages since ive spoken with you too

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Thanks @outlander 😺

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I wish I didn't have to have insurance @outlander but I have a vision of cancelling my policies and next minute having the house burn down or smashing into a Lamborghini (or both simultaneously - not being a pessimistic, anxious, catastrophising banana head here at all 😛😉). Bills, paperwork, fine print, money (basically anything grown up) I fail at! 😏😆

How's your day looking? It's sensational weather here after a freezing start. I'm thinking of trying to get into the garden later and dreaming of pots of bulbs in the for spring. It's something I talk about every year but am keen to try and get organised for this year 🙂

Hey @Bunniekins. Hope you enjoyed your walk this morning with your new friend 😊

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thanks @CheerBear um insurance brokers can be good, hope you got it sorted

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hope so and thanks @Bunniekins hope your days going okay

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adulting is not very fun @CheerBear i dont think im good at that stuff either. 😏😏😆

ive jsut finished off doing the test from yesterday the scheduled one today so thats crossed off the list. the rest of the day is looking rather quiet. i have to try (try but might not get there 😏) to start my assignment but nothing else. im watching mrs browns boys atm, need abit of a giggle in amongst the chaos.
oh im sure your garden will look really nice with some bulbs. i dont have a garden but i love going to the botanical gardens in spring when my allergies are under control and really appreciate all the work that goes into there, from the glimpses you share on here i can imagine sitting out there with a cup of tea enjoying the lovely weather and the view.

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Adulting is totally overrated @outlander! I'd love to go back to being 12 when my biggest concern was probably whether the Spice Girls were breaking up 😉

Good to hear you're having a bit of giggle time today 🙂 How's your blanket going? Mine is collecting dust at the moment as I've been busy during the day and too tired at night to get to it.

The garden is getting there again 🙂 I am sitting in the vegetable patch at the moment next to a corner I did last week. Lots of snapdragons 😍

I always wish I'd thought ahead and planted bulbs when the weather turns cold, but never have. I have no idea how to do them though so I'm researching instead of chucking stuff in the ground and crossing my fingers. I'm looking through Pinterest but as you know that's a whole world of distractions that makes it hard to stay on track!

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oh yes definently overrated @CheerBear 😛

its going good, ive almost finished the 4th yarn cake. ive got one more i can use and im thinking ill just use it id rather abit big than to small of a blanket. the yarn colours i have are being discontinued or something so i cant get more anyway.
its ok, your blanket wont go anywhere and i know once you pick it up again itll be finished in no time.

oh pretty, all the flowers i love are to high in pollen so have to be careful but theres a plant i like but im not sure what its called- maybe youll know.. its a succulent but its in the shape of a rose.. i quite like it and wanted to plant one of my own but i dont even know what they are called.

haha pintrest- you wont ever stay on the same thing for to long! youll get there though and im sure the garden thread people would be able to give you a hand if your stuck too...

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good morning @CheerBear , @outlander , @TAB , @Bunniekins , @Mazarita

next door`s nighbours yard is creeping into our and mr shaz sprayed all down the fence line

and my mini orange tree is now all brown

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hello @Shaz51 its afternoon here for me now
aww im sorry about your little orange tree. maybe plant a new one in a different spot and start again?
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