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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Good morning all @Bunniekins @BryanaCamp @Adge @Appleblossom @Shaz51 @Exoplanet @CheerBear @Zoe7

Funny but true ..... yesterday evening my brother and I sat beside the new pool on the new concrete and had a couple of glasses of wine. After a while he asked me if my bum was stinging .... fast forward .... we both have concrete burns on our buttocks and let me tell you it's not comfortable! And this type of burn needs to be treated with something oil based but before we found that out we had tried vit E cream, sorbolene, aloe vera, and calendula cream - all of which made it sting a lot more. The solution seems to be almond oil. I'm sure we'll look back on this and laugh but not just yet.

So I probably won't get to do water tai chi this week coz the burn is right around the area under the bottom of my swimmers. That would be embarassing. Just hoping it heals easily and doesn't get infected or anything.

Hope you've had a good laugh on me!

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Oh @eth I don't know whether to laugh at your misfortune or feel sorry for you so I will do both lol That will make for a funny story down the track - when the pool is full next summer and your are sipping on a drink or two you can look back to yesterday with your brother and have a giggle about it

Hope it heals quickly for you though - must be really uncomfortable

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Hi @Adge how slack of the nurse that's meant to be doing your home visits. Hope you managed to get some attention to your wound yesterday.

@saturnzoon I hope you had a peaceful day yesterday and that you are finding a way through all the pressures of life at the moment.

@BryanaCamp hope today is a better day for you.

I'm around for a while if anyone wants to chat.

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Snap! @Zoe7 How are you today?

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I am good @eth Snuggled up with Toby on the couch and enjoying the day to myself. Have to do some things later but no rush - just taking the day as it comes.

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I have a quiet day at home too @Zoe7 . My usual saturday afternoon support has been cancelled. They offered me a substitute but I went out with her once before and don't want to go with her again. She made too many statements about breaking up with her husband, having done rehab for alcohol in the last six months, and even about finding alcohol her daughter had hidden from her while she was packing. I get that they are peer support workers, not qualified, but this was inappropriate over-sharing on her part and I felt really uncomfortable with her. It might sound selfish but the bottom line is they are supporting me, not vice versa.

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Totally understandable @eth You don't need that extra drama in your life - as you said - they are there to support you and it sounds like she is the one that needs support so not approriate for your needs.

The weather is certainly making it a perfect day to be inside - raining over the night and expecting more today ...and no very warm so snuggles and a little footy watching is going to be my day.

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Lots of rain overnight here too @Zoe7 The garden really needed it. A nice day for snuggling up. I might watch some my kitchen rules on-line. And do some reading about the woman taking the writing workshop I'm doing next Friday. Also want to do my bridge homework at some stage as I'm having a practice with sil's mum tomorrow. I've let it slide this fortnight as my partner was away and I missed the lesson with my cold.

Have a peaceful day.

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I still need to get out and water some of my garden - there is a section under the trees that doesn't get much rain so needs constant watering.

How is your cold now? Is it completely cleared up? They often hang around for a while so hoping you are getting on top of it @eth

Rewatching Jack Irish at the moment - it is a good series that I enjoyed - can't remember how this one ended so hapy to watch it again.

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@eth Hi eth actually I feel sorry for you having concrete burn on your butt!! sounds awful. I hope it heals quickly. I wonder why it burnt just by sitting on it. Never heard of such a thing before.xxxx:)

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