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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Morning everyone 🙂

Thanks for the hi's @Bunniekins and @eth. Your walk sounds awesome greenpea. I'm with your son2 - Bunnies and chocolate eggs are fab 😁🐇🐰 We still have the Easter bunny visit here which means magic too 😊

Good to hear you're feeling a bit better from your cold @eth 🙂

I'm trying to figure out what to do today. I have housework and paperwork (lots of bills in there) to get through and a vegetable garden that wants to be done while it is amazing weather. I feel like I want to get on my bike and go for a ride though as I have some energy I want to burn out. Not bad choices really but the trying to work it out bit is annoying me.

Hope today has some good in it for everyone. Sending some beautiful sunshine we have happening here to all 🌞🌈

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Hi @CheerBear good to see you! I'm sure your garden will appreciate some of that extra energy you are feeling. I do agree about the magic of sharing Easter with kiddlets ... especially the hunt! We had fun a few years decorating real eggs too.

Hope you get through your domestic and administrivia chores today - I have some I could do too - it always feels so good when they are done.

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I just had a wander through the garden and think I might give it some of that energy as you mentioned @eth. It's about 3/4 of the way through a full demolition gardening episode and what's left will definitely take some of that energy. I need to get the beds prepared before planting anything in there so the sooner I can get that done the sooner I can grow fresh yumminess again. I'll have to make a quick trip to Bunnings as my garden clipper thingies died - problem being that "quick trip to Bunnings" is never a quick trip as I get distracted walking around oohing and ahhing at all the pretty, fun, fabulous projects waiting to happen! 😆

It does often feel good to get through both the domestic and administrative stuff. My bank account doesn't like it when I pay bills though lol. A tendency towards avoidance definitely doesn't help me out when it comes to that one 😏

Decorating real eggs is also awesome! Easter is at the end of the holidays this time so we'll have plenty of time to play crafty stuff before the Bunny arrives.

I'm going to stop thinking and start doing. If I disappear send the search party to my local Bunnings - I'll probably be in the nursery section talking to the plants 😉

Hope you have an enjoyable day, however you spend it ❤

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Woohoo Have fun @CheerBear I know what you mean about Bunning's adventures!

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Me three @CheerBear @eth

I spent 10 years going to Bunnings and other plant places.

@Bunniekins Wow your morning sounds great. I had a 1/2 walk with a group. One lady had a walker. We were all at different fitness levels, but it was still pleasant and worth it. Stopped and looked over a beautiful water hole with ducks. My area has often been the butt of jokes in the whole city, but it is getting better care and becoming a wonderful place to live.

@Shaz51 @Zoe7 @Mazarita @Adge

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Good afternoon @Appleblossom @eth @CheerBear @Bunniekins @Shaz51 and all passing through.

Bunnings is my absolute favourite place to visit and much like many of you I can get lost in there for ages. If it is not playing in the timber section it is in the garden section - and I can take Toby in with me so that makes it extra special 🐶🌴

Been a reasonable day today but glad to be home. Developed a headache this afternoon so resting up before I give Toby a bath. Then I will get dinner organised and chill out for the rest of the evening.

It seems like everyone has had a reasonable day. @eth I understand your fears while your brother is away - fingers crossed all goes well and you cope okay with the added few responsibilities.

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Thanks @Zoe7 . Hope your headache clears up quickly.

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Afternoon all

@Bunniekins love your pictures, like to imagine being in them, miss all that. Where I live is nowhere near any water or beautiful gardens and mountains, I have a very big back yard but it's all just dead grass and dirt.

Hate waking up each day now, sick of getting overdue bills and just trying to get through one day at a time with no mony. so angry with my older son for putting me in this situation and angry at myself for letting him do it. I just never learn.

Good to hear a lot of you have had a good day and easter is coming up to quick this time, not sure how it's going to be for my youngest.

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@saturnzoon Hi saturzoon I am glad that you liked the pictures :). Sorry that you have money problems.... nothing grinds one down than lack of money (been there done that). It is truely awful particularly when it occurred because of your eldest .... Love pea xxxx

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@Sophia1 It is so good to see you under that support button. I have just recently been thinking of you alot and wondering how you were going. Was missing you. greenpeaxxxx

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