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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thinking of you @Adge Found this

And saw these:

Thinking of an ex forumiteRavens not crows

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Nice ones @Appleblossom Lovely pictures.

A Tawny Frogmouth, & a Raven.

Adge

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@Adge this has been such an ordeal for you :(. Are you still on antibiotics? Please don't hesitate to see the doc about the wound. Am very worried about my friend finch xxxx

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@Mazarita @Adge @Appleblossom @Zoe7 @BryanaCamp @eth @CheerBear @Exoplanet good morning to you all and all that pass through on this beautiful Tuesday morning :). Went for my walk with neighbour. She kept up with me and went up a huge hill too :o!! She said she has been walking every morning since the 1970s and it shows. When I compare her to my mother who is the same age it is like chalk and cheese. Even though my mum has always exercised but carries alot more weight than neighbour.

Hope you all have a super day today particularly Adge, take good care of yourself my friend. Love greenpea xxxx

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It is really great that you have a walking partner @Bunniekins It will encourage you to do it every day as well so that is an added bonus. Hope you have a great day little pea

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Hi all and good morning @Bunniekins @Zoe7 @CheerBear @Adge @BryanaCamp @Exoplanet @Shaz51 @Appleblossom @outlander @frog Hope the morning is ok so far and today is one of the better ones.

@BryanaCamp Good on you for the job applications. I've been on DSP for so long that I wouldn't know where to start. Nothing to add to my resume for over a decade, plus it all has to be done electronically nowadays. By the way I live in my brother's back yard so am reaping the benefits of their decision to put in a pool. At least I will be once I get over my serious aversion to cold water!

@Bunniekins sounds like you've made a new connection with a walking buddy. Hope that turns into a nice friendship. My cold seems a bit better today thanks - hoping it's really on it's way out and doesn't go to my chest like the last time I had one. Had a couple of total rest days so am planning to go to water tai chi (warm pool) with SW today.

@Adge good to hear you got your staples out, not so good about the discharge. Hope you can get to see a Dr today. I still can't believe they sent you home so soon and with no support.

@Zoe7 Hope your PD day goes well today. I got a couple of significant things sorted yesterday but still haven't done my filing. Oh well, I kinda know what's in which pile!

@Appleblossom

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Have a good day @Bunniekins

Well-wishes for everyone.

Adge

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hi @eth , thanks for your encouragement. it's nice you are so close to family. I live alone with my cat & it's great mostly but sometimes it's lonely. hope you have a lovely time at water tai chi, what a great thing to do! hope your cold is getting better.

hi @Bunniekins your neighbour sounds like such a cool woman, I have an aunt in her 80's who swims every day and I so admire her. it's so lovely the two of you have connected.

hi @Zoe7 hope have a good day with PD & look after yourself.

Has anyone come home from the psych hosptial? my brother is in the uk & just been sent home from psych ward but I'm worried he's very socially isolated with no socail supports. he's got a home care team visiting & wondering if anyone knows what the deal might be with them? i hope he can get some supports organised with them & sees them as helpful, I worry he'll just think they're the enemy. thanks for listening anyways, it's a bit stressful & frustrating i can't visit him.

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Everything with your brother would be stressful @BryanaCamp and even more so that he is so far away and you can't visit him. I suppose all you can do is hope he accepts the help being offered and stays on his meds.

PD is over and I am home earlier than expected. Tuesdays are usually my longer day but as I am not at school I don't have a meeting this afternoon. It is kind of making this a shorter week for me as well - only 2 actual days with the kids and the grade 6s are away on camp so that reduces what I have to do as well. Putting me feet up for a while here before I do a few household chores. Toby is snuggled with me too

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@BryanaCamp Hi BryanaCamp yes I have had two hospital admissions (and god did I hate them ....). I am sure the British system is better (couldn't be worse from my experience). Has he got a pdoc on the outside? That is the key to success for me was finally finding a pdoc who knew my diagnosis and medicated me correctly and staying on these awful, awful medications.Home care team didn't exist for me. I had one person visit once a week for while and then that finished up with me still sick.

Sorry to sound so dark .... as I said earlier I am sure they do it much better in Britain than here. Try not to worry although it is hard being so far away. I have a son1 in Germany so I understand where you are coming from. Would he come out here for awhile? is that a feasible option? greenpea

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