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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Exoplanet sending you some love and hugs too and hope your day has been a good one

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@Exoplanet

Thanks for the love.

Back at ya.

Proficiat! @TAB

Its amazing having one's sense of smell return.

@Zoe7 @Adge @Bunniekins

and all who pass by

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Hi @Zoe7 well, went for a walk this morning. felt pretty average, well had been off last couple days.something seems to have reset itself after a nap just before though. had a big day yest. Someone rang me almost out of the blue, well met a few times and work and sort of chatted on fb, anyway I just threw my phone number out ..and they rang .. was amazing. anyway plus got paperwork to do with leaving work ok its got a wrong box ticked and they are busy so will give it until tomorrow for them to change it and got told most likely had work thru place registered at yesterday. However. Nothing really has changed. They haven't rung back. Well it's just perceptions that look better. anyway will try other places and at least have paperwork for centrelink application even in wrong box ticked, so it's something hope you get some rest

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Hope you get it all sorted out @TAB It is annoying when the paperwork isn't done properly

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It was nice of that person to contact you @TAB Making connections is important even if it is just a short term thing. Are you going to meet up?

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ok Proficiat is a bit like Gratuliere @Appleblossom yes its hard to know you dont have something like smell . I can smell cigarette smoke from unseen smokers in their houses walking done the street now lol

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ah well, it will work as is, but box ticked will more than likely double the waiting period. I tried ringing them as they left a phone number on email. but its pay office and wednesday so will leave it today. Have had similar situations before, where box ticked was to my disadvantage and talked centrelink person through it. best to have correct box ticked., no chances then. anyway. what does the person in pay office know? have questioned them before, but different company, this is very hands off and cant contact person who sent it @Zoe7 anyway will be ok

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..maybe @Zoe7 there is no plan to atm. it's a 'she' who is 20 years younger and has young kid and hassles with ex over maintenance. I was just an ear at work a few times. Shocked that she rang. Well prob first time anyone from work has rung me ok there's one guy who kept in touch with over the years and there were others on fb and msngr

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Sounds like you were a friendly ear for her @TAB Sometimes that is all that is needed - maybe she just wants to reconnect for a chat - if you are up for that.

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she used to seek me out for a chat at work and even offer me cigarettes @Zoe7 well I liked seeing her. Anyway. Not my job to set up reasons why not as opposed to why. just she's staying 600k s away atm for some reason

oh. just got second certificate from work. Exact same box ticked. I replied, re wording my request, being more polite and making it sound more important. All I can do. Perhaps was a duplicate request from old boss. Was sent from different address

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