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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Thanks @CheerBear ive added a few extra things in this year including those small xmas cards with a note in it. I dont do it for recognition, it saddens me that people have to go without these basic needs usually through no fault of their own so im only to happy to do what i can to make even one persons life just a little better.

Good luck with that! Im not a fan of spiders, we had a huge huntsman in the house just a few days ago. Yuck!


Im up to my first tea now. Yay!
@Faith-and-Hope
Hows things going at your end? Do you have any plans for today?

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Just study and packing @outlander ..... have breakfasted now and am settling into my first project.

There is a moist rally outside the art space, so I might relocate everything to our home space, which is a bit further away from all the noise.

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A quieter space sounds good @Faith-and-Hope
Are you still working on your art journal?

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Yes @outlander, but maybe not today .... I was talking to @Zoe7 earlier about sticking to one project today and trying to finish it ... keep my focus to one thing at a time where I can ....

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Hello @outlander Its great you are helping out homeless women.

@Faith-and-Hope a noisy rally or a moist one? lol I was wondering about rain ...

I have a nice quiet day too. Dropped my son off to a day with new friends. Yay

I have the house to myself. So it will be music for me. Vocal and piano. My mind jumps around a lot. Whereas other times it was important to go with the flow of my ideas and learn to trust myself again, as my mind was not always going to take me to bad places.

@Mazarita @CheerBear @Zoe7 @eth

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Hey @Appleblossom Nice that you have the house to yourself for the afternoon. Enjoy your music Apple

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It is a rare event. @Zoe7 He will be away for dinner and back late. Its great he has finally found a local group closer to his age to hang with.

What are you planning for today.

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It is great that he has found that group @Appleblossom and must be a relief for you as well to know he is having a good time with friends.

I am snuggled on the couch with Toby watching some shows I recorded earlier in the week - it is cold and miserable here today so after a little shopping this morning I am now back in the warmth. I have nothing else planned - still feeling very flat so just doing hat I need to get through the day.

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Thanks @Zoe7 It is huge for him and therefore for me. When he comes home from its so lovely to hear the quality in his voice of having enjoyed himself.

You have put out a lot of energy lately, and conserving yourself is a good idea.

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Thanks @Appleblossom It has been heartwarming to have the support I have had over the past few weeks. I suspect it is only going to get harder from herein though and that is not something I am looking forward to. I can only do what I can do though so time will tell how things go over the next few weeks.

It must be so lovely to have your son come home and be excited about where he has been - it would certainly give you a heartlift too - I really am so pleased for you Hon - and you get some quality time on your own as well so a win-win all around

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