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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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@Shaz51@eth Hi Shaz51 and eth just did some chair yoga .... feeling much calmer 🙂

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Thanks @Bunniekins How's your day been?

@Faith-and-Hope is there any way you can delay the study (e.g. very early start tomorrow when things are clearer) and have some self-care time this afternoon? You'll probably study a lot more efficiently if you take the pressure off today and let yourself feel your feelings. Just a suggestion, but what I would do when I was studying. Maybe have a nice bath, or as you say do some personal art for a while - sounds like good medicine to me.

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my super @Bunniekins xxxxx

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@eth it has been great thanks. I had my ex bring me some flowers 😄 and had son2 out for hours which gave me a great break. Went for a lovely walk and have been doing gentle exercises. Have been a bit racey 😛 as I am not taking all of my mood meds because I am so desperate to lose some weight 😞 as you all know and I bore you all to trears but it is true so I am still taking them but not as much to see if that makes a difference :).

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@Shaz51 😄 xxxx

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Thank you for the suggestion @eth, but the assignment I am working on actually means a lot to me in terms of it's content, and getting it done releives a sense of pressure that I will bank extra work up onto the next couple of weeks if I don't keep chipping away at it ..... we are nearing the end of the course and there are heavier assignments ahead of me. This work today is just collating images for my visual diary, a set of photos I have taken.

It will probably interest you and @utopia particularly, but others here as well. I went to an exhibition yesterday that honours the indigenous troops that fought in WWI and WWII. The exhibition was very moving, and very well done. It contained many personal stories and shared artwork, and an amazing music, song and dance video that honours the Aboriginal diggers in the traditional form of oral history combined with dance.

It also contained the shocking awareness that these Australians had to lie about their cultural identity as well as their age in order to fight for their country against a (new) overseas threat, on both occasions, and alongside Australians who represented a people who had been, and still were abusive towards them. The reason they had to lie about their cultural identity was because they didn't have any civil rights as First People Australians ..... and that brings me to tears.

A beautiful aspect of the exhibition is that the ancient identity of our Australian Aboriginal people as both warriors and ambassadors showcases the grace with which they are regrouping within a modern context and reasserting this precious cultural identity.

I would recommend anyone and everyone visit this exhibition as it tours Australia. Here are the tour dates and regions:

https://www.awm.gov.au/visit/exhibitions/for-country-for-nation

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Hey @Shaz51 good to hear you got some rest this afternoon. The best remedy for feeling 'slack' in my book. You are so busy so much of the time I'm sure you've earned it xx

@Bunniekins good to hear you are managing to find quiet and peaceful activities while you are feeling racy. Needless to say I'm concerned about you adjusting your meds without medical support while you do it. Maybe time to stabilize on what you've dropped them too if you know you're getting racy. Sorry if I sound like a nag, but I care deeply about you and that you stay stable. Will be here for you whatever happens xx

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ha ha yep @eth ,think eggs on toast sound good fo dinner tonight too xxx

my super @Bunniekins, , hope you are feeling a bit better xxxxx

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Thanks for the link @Faith-and-Hope. So good to see a bit of true history and acknowledgement happening. It's still too rare.

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Unfortunately the exhibition will be at the other end of the state for me @Faith-and-Hope I wish it was coming to Hobart - would love to see it. It would be a long 2 and a half hour drive for me to get there as the major highway has many road works happening along it.

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