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A long rave

A long rave

Edit Feb 2018: This thread has evolved into a chat thread, which is fine by me. In addition, I encourage other members to feel free to post their own 'long raves' in here too if wished. I will continue to post my own longer raves from time to time, as well as chat with friends along the way.

Original post from May 2016:

First of all, a (very) long post alert. Please don't feel obliged to read or respond. Mainly I am writing today to clear my own head of some things. So, here goes...

Last week, I managed to get to all planned appointments and activities every day of the week except Sunday. That only amounts to one, maximum two, per day, but was an improvement on previous weeks and months. I've made all planned appointments in a week before, but there have not been so many appointments in so many days consecutively. Many of you will know that, prior to about mid last year, I spent years very rarely leaving the flat. This was since the last of my breakdowns from paid employment in 2008 (one of so many similar breakdowns from paid working, though none as devastating in consequence as this last one). With each of these breakdowns, the recovery time got longer and longer. It's taken eight years to recover much at all this time around.

This week, so far, I've made none of my appointments or activities. In fact, I've not showered for days. Embarrassing to admit but maybe helpful to own up to it. As I write I'm still in what I wore to bed, as I was all day yesterday and the day before. The weird thing is that I don't feel that bad in my emotions, just crashed out physically and lacking almost all motivation except to use the computer. In other words, my mind and fingertips are alert and active, in fact nervy and overactive as usual, but the rest of me is crashed out. Perhaps I have entered what some people call a bipolar 'mixed state'. Whatever the terminology, this is where I am and I've been here so many times before.

The way I see it, there are a number of possible reasons for the way I am after last week:

  • inner conflict about how helpful my psychologist treatment is for me (saw her on Friday);
  • trying to further reduce my tobacco intake (the struggle seems disproportionately huge and exhausting);
  • needing recovery time from a big week (by my standards);
  • simply another manifestation of bipolar disorder in me.

Regarding the psychologist. She is young compared to me and I have the feeling that she may not grasp the full extent of my situation, partly through lack of life experience. Perhaps she may particularly lack an understanding of the various physical ailments that complicate things with me, some age-related (menopause, musculo-skeletal problems), one of them a chronic illness (crohns disease). She is treating me with some techniques from Dialectical Behavioural Therapy, something I honestly have never liked the sound of when I've read about it. The main 'homework' I have for this four week period is a sheet I am meant to fill out every night covering various things including tobacco use, coffee intake, isolating, unbalance eating, sleep patterns, lack of exercise. The sheet also includes sections monitoring mood every day. The problem I find is that monitoring and (by implication) tackling all these things at once is just overwhelming. I am significantly depressed after filling out the form because it seems to highlight all the ways I am failing rather than the ways I am succeeding. The psychologist has given me this sheet as homework once before and it had the same effect on me then. A full month long slump into depression is what followed. This sheet makes me feel very pressured to recover quickly from all of these things at once, a message that contradicts the advice of my psychiatrist (who I trust much more). His advice is to take it slowly and steadily and not feel rushed. As of yesterday, I stopped using the DBT form altogether. I am even considering giving up on the therapy with this psychologist after my next (sixth) session instead of seeing it through to the ten sessions my GP is willing to refer me for.

With the difficulty of further tobacco reduction, I am succeeding in reducing this a little more but the effort is gargantuan and seems to be sapping all the strength I have for making it out the door to my activities and appointments (or even to get dressed and showered). Writing here is just about the only thing that is distracting me from smoking again or thinking about it obsessively.

I've run out of steam on writing about it all now (a huge sigh of relief from any readers at this point).

I wonder if anyone else can make any sense of this.

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Morning @Mazarita. Just catching up on yesterday. Sounds like you had another good day 🙂

Hi to everyone and hope the day ahead has good in it for you all ❤

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@CheerBear

Yes, yesterday was a good one.

How was your day?

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So good to hear @Mazarita. Mine wasn't great. It's stuff that's tricky for me to talk about here though so I'll leave it as saying it was a sad teary one for me. I did have the company of a friend and he is very much about not sitting in sad for long so we went to Bunnings and then finished the garden beds in the vegetable garden which was really nice. My greenhouse blew over and we lost all of our seedlings which was also a bit sad too, but now the garden is finished I feel better about starting again with them. Thanks for asking though.

How did you sleep last night?

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Hugs for your yesterday, @CheerBear. So glad your friend was there to help make it better. Hope today treats you much much better.

I've had three good sleeps since about 10.30pm last night. I went to bed a bit later than the 8.30-9 I've been doing for a while. Going to bed that early means I just lie there tossing and turning for an hour or more. But I hit the pillow and fell asleep straight away last night.

How did you sleep?

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Thanks @Mazarita. Middle gets their cast off today and they're very excited about it, as am I (mostly so they can wash properly!) so today will have good in it early 🙂

Great to hear you had some good sleep. Does it help with feeling more awake in the morning? I've had nightmares and very early starts the last couple of nights. I've woken at 2ish and then spent a couple of hours in weird on/off half awake scary dream sleep. It's like being stuck between awake and not. I started my new medication 2 nights ago and am really hoping it's not that and if it is that it passes soon!

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I know that in between place between sleep and wake, @CheerBear. Very frustrating when you are trying to get some good REM. I'm betting it is the changeover of meds. Brain chemistry trying to find its balance with different conditions in there. I tend to have some disturbances to things with any kind of med change. Usually it settles down after a bit. Hope it works that way for you too and that the new med starts to help you very quickly.

I have been feeling awake and cheerful at this time a lot lately, which unfortunately has been fading as the morning gets noiser and dense with the energy of the waking world (if that makes sense). I'll get another sleep before I start the day in earnest.

Any plans you want to share for today, aside from middle's cast coming off? A free arm is a good thing, though I know they have been enjoying it!

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Thanks for understanding @Mazarita. I rarely do meds well so crossing fingers I can stick this one out. For now it's worth a try at least.

Wishing the awake and cheerful feelings would stick around a bit longer for you during the day. From here it looks like you're doing so well to keep going through the day and find things that feel good.

Middle may stay at home today and if they do we'll start again with planting seeds in trays. It was a little thing we did together and enjoyed so they were sad to see the chaos that a tipped over greenhouse made of the seeds. This evening we're planning on going to see well/unwell ones as a surprise. Surgery has been brought forward and they're both feeling very worried and sad as am I. They're talking about power of attorney and the need for a will etc now which is a bit scary. I want to surprise them to show them we're here even though we're further away than we used to be and would like to be. It'll be a bit epic on a school night but worth it for all I think.

Curious about your day though I'm thinking you may prefer not to share perhaps until it's passed?

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I have a couple of 'to do' plans, and one that is just a possibility, @CheerBear. I will keep them in my head for now, and share how things went later.

C is up early today too, making his morning expresso. I can't be bothered with the fiddliness of that and drink instant. I've been drinking it so long, I prefer the taste!

Are you outside with your coffee this morning? I have chilly legs from the door being open next to me. That's because my fluffy dressing gown is on the line from yesterday.

It's that time of lull between bursts of birdsong. The birds must be like me: awake with the dawn, then back for a bit more sleep.

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Haha I understand the feeling with fiddly coffee also @Mazarita and prefer instant for that reason 🙂

Yep I am outside psyching myself up to wake some little people who all went to bed somewhat feral-ish last night (it was a loooong day!). They tend to be a lot easier to deal with when they're sleeping 😉😆. The sun is up noticeably earlier these days which is nice. A few sparrows/finches (wish I could remember the difference) have made a nest under the gutter by my bedroom window which is next to the coffee spot and I'm watching them collect goodies to bring home 😊

Better get a move on now also. Hope the day goes well for you, whatever it is you're up to. Really good to catch you this morning, thanks.

❤ to you and all 🌈

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Thanks for another early chat, @CheerBear. Kind things your way today.

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